Personality disorders Cluster C

Hello people, welcome back to the blog! Last week, we finished with the Cluster B personality disorders, borderline, histrionic, and narcissistic personality disorders. This week, we’ll complete the entire series with the Cluster C “anxious and fearful” disorders: avoidant personality disorder, dependent personality disorder and obsessive compulsive personality disorder, not to be confused with obsessive compulsive disorder OCD. 

Avoidant Personality Disorder

AvPD or APD is characterized by extreme shyness, feelings of inadequacy, and extreme sensitivity to criticism. The key word here is avoid. People with AvPD are often unwilling to get involved with other people unless they’re certain they’ll be liked, otherwise, they’re not going to take the chance of being rejected. They’ll sooner avoid all social interaction than risk being ridiculed, humiliated, or disliked. They’re constantly preoccupied with how they’re being perceived, are hypervigilant of criticism, and may view themselves as not being good enough or socially inept. They typically avoid new activities or meeting strangers like the plague. For many of them, just the thought of something as simple as asking a stranger for the time is inconceivable. As a result of these constant fears, they’re extremely restrained, even in their intimate relationships. They can appear very socially awkward, not only due to lack of experience, but also because they tend to excessively monitor internal reactions, their own and everyone else’s, and this keeps them from engaging naturally in social situations. As with many personality disorders, a vicious cycle can take over in which the more they monitor their internal reactions, the more inept they feel; and the more inept they feel, the more they monitor their internal reactions.

Signs and symptoms of AvPD may include:

-Anhedonia, lack of pleasure in activities

-Self-isolation

-Severe anxiety in social situations

-Avoiding conflict, being a “people-pleaser”

-Avoidance of social interaction despite a strong desire for intimacy

-Avoiding interaction in work settings or turning down promotions

-Avoiding making decisions

-Avoiding situations due to fear of rejection

-Easily hurt by criticism or disapproval

-Extreme self-consciousness, lack of assertiveness

-Fearful and tense demeanor, lack of trust in others

-Constant worry about being ridiculed, shamed, or ‘found out’ and rejected

-Feeling inadequate, inferior, or unattractive

-Misinterpreting neutral situations as negative

-No close friends/lacking a social network

-Unwilling to take risks or try new things

AvPD affects about 2.5 percent of the population, with roughly equal numbers of men and women being afflicted. As you can probably guess, AvPD is strongly associated with anxiety disorders, especially social anxiety, and can be associated with actual or felt rejection by parents or peers in childhood. In fact, childhood emotional neglect and peer group rejection are risk factors for development of AvPD, but it can occur without any notable abuse or neglect history. Generally speaking, people with the diagnosis are typically very shy as children, but Captain Obvious says that not every child who is shy goes on to develop the disorder, and not every adult who is shy has it. We all have people, places, and things we don’t like, or which make us anxious, that we’d like to avoid. The difference lies in how the person experiences them. With AvPD, even just the fear of rejection or disapproval can be an extremely painful experience, and this makes them struggle to maintain relationships in their personal and professional lives.  

Dependent Personality Disorder

DPD is characterized by an inability to be alone. People with DPD rely on other people for comfort, reassurance, advice, and support regarding all areas of their lives. They develop symptoms of anxiety when they’re lacking these outside sources of guidance. They fear separation, and are most often described as clingy or needy. They are submissive and passive by nature, and allow others to direct their lives because they are unable to do so themselves. They tend to be indecisive and unable to take the initiative, allowing other people such as spouses or parents to make all the major life decisions, including where to live, what type of career to pursue, and where to work. They have difficulty initiating projects or doing things on their own due to a lack of self-confidence in judgment or abilities, as opposed to a lack of motivation or energy. Because of their reliance on others, they may not learn the skills of independent living, and this perpetuates their dependency. Being often preoccupied with the thought of being left to fend for themselves, if they ever do disagree with any decision made for them, they would rarely express it; they would simply adjust their opinion to match that of their champion for fear of abandonment. In fact, the idea of being alone may cause such discomfort that some will go to considerable lengths to secure and maintain relationships. As you can imagine, this can be a big problem if they get roped in with an individual who doesn’t have their best interests in mind. This can be a very dangerous and destructive situation, especially when they believe that they are under the protection of someone who they idealize as competent and powerful, someone who’s their hero champion, and towards whom they behave in a self-effacing and ingratiating manner. People with DPD often end up with people with a cluster B personality disorder, as the latter feed on the unconditional regard in which the former holds them. I’ve had many patients that have coupled up in this manner, and it can be an unholy nightmare to untangle. Generally speaking, people with DPD maintain a naïve perspective, and have limited insight into themselves, and certainly even less into others. This entrenches and perpetuates their dependency, leaving them vulnerable to abuse and exploitation.

Signs and symptoms of DPD may include:

-Difficulty making everyday decisions

-Requiring others to assume responsibility for most major areas of his or her life

-True fear of having to provide self-care or fend for themselves if left alone

-Submissive or clingy behavior

-Tendency for naiveté

-Lack of self-confidence, requiring excessive advice and reassurance from others 

-Instinctively agree with others for fear of disapproval

-Going to excessive lengths to obtain support from others, even if it includes unpleasant tasks

-Tolerance of poor or abusive treatment, even when other options are available

-Feeling uncomfortable, anxious, bored, or helpless when alone

-Difficulty doing projects due to lack of confidence in abilities

-Urgent need to start a new relationship when a close one has ended

People with DPD normally first show signs in early to mid-adulthood, and males and females are generally equally diagnosed. True DPD is somewhat rare, with an estimated prevalence ranging from 0.49 to 0.6 percent. People with DPD are very prone to separation anxiety, and can become devastated when relationships and friendships are severed. When alone, a person with DPD may experience severe anxiety, panic attacks, and hopeless despondence. Clearly, some of these symptoms are the same for people with anxiety disorders, but people with medical conditions such as depression or even menopause may also experience some of these symptoms. Some factors that might contribute to the development of this disorder include having a history of a neglectful or an abusive upbringing, having overprotective or authoritarian parents, and

having a family history of anxiety disorders.

In addition, having a diagnosis of separation anxiety disorder or a history of chronic illness during childhood can increase the risk of developing DPD. Most people deal with feelings of insecurity at some point in their lives. It’s natural and perfectly normal to need other people to care for us or give us reassurance at times. The difference is that people with DPD require reassurance from others to simply function in their daily lives. A healthy balance involves being able to both depend on others as well as being independent enough to fend for oneself.

Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder

Aka Anankastic Personality Disorder

OCPD is characterized by a preoccupation with orderliness, perfectionism, and mental and interpersonal control, even at the expense of efficiency. People with OCPD have an obsessive need to follow rules and regulations, and they have a strict moral and ethical code from which they will not deviate… they’re always right. They often have such a level of perfectionism that they cannot finish tasks because they become too fixated on the details. They generally have an unwillingness to delegate or share tasks, unless the person they’re working with agrees to perform them exactly as they ask. They may be so preoccupied with details and order that the major point of the activity is lost. The rigidity that accompanies having OCPD often interferes with the person’s ability to relate to others and vice versa. While they can often improve their quality of life if they seek treatment, they rarely perceive that there’s a problem, so the condition tends to go untreated. As you can imagine, people with OCPD can be extremely difficult to work with or have a relationship with because they typically only see things their way. They believe that their approaches are the best way, and usually cannot understand another person’s point of view. They are often excessively devoted to work and productivity, to the exclusion of leisure activities and friendships. They generally have a miserly spending style toward both themself and others; money is something to be hoarded for future catastrophes. They are often unable to discard worn-out or worthless objects, even when they have no sentimental value. OCPD should not be confused with OCD, obsessive compulsive disorder. While some mannerisms and compulsions are similar, there is a BIG difference: people with OCD are aware that their compulsions are illogical, while people with OCPD are not. In fact, in their way of thinking, their thinking is logical, and if other people followed their rules, everything in their life would be fine. Just ask them, they’ll tell you… sometimes you don’t even have to ask! The problem comes in especially when rules and procedures don’t dictate the correct answer; decision making can become a painful, time-consuming process. In this case, the person with OCPD may have such difficulty deciding which tasks take priority or what’s the best way of doing a certain task, that they may never get started on anything, let alone finish. They’re prone to anger in situations in which they’re unable to maintain control of their physical environment, although they don’t typically express it directly. They’ll often find a more passive aggressive way to express it; for example, leaving a poor tip at a restaurant instead of speaking to management. When anger is expressed, it’s usually done with righteous indignation, often over a seemingly minor matter.

Signs and symptoms of OCPD may include:

-Overwhelming need for order and perfection, such that it interferes with task completion 

-Fixation on organization, detailed schedules, list making 

-An overwhelming need to be punctual

-Strict personal moral and ethical codes

-Excessive devotion to work at the expense of family or social relationships

-Often seen as ungenerous or frugal

-Display hoarding behaviors, such as refusing to throw things away

-Significant rigidity and stubbornness

-Inability to share or delegate work due to fear it won’t be done right

-Often feel righteous, indignant, and angry

-Socially isolated

-Stiff, formal, or rigid mannerisms

In relationships, people with OCPD are very aware of their relative status, and they tend to display excessive deference to an authority they respect, and excessive resistance to an authority they don’t. When they express affection, it’s done in a very controlled manner, and they’re very uncomfortable when they’re around other people who are emotionally expressive. Their everyday relationships have a formal quality to them, and they’re usually very stiff in situations where most others are smiling and happy. They’re often so preoccupied with logic and intellect, they tend to carefully hold themselves back in conversations until they’re sure that whatever they say will be the perfect thing. 

As with most personality disorders, the intensity of OCPD symptoms will decrease with age, and the most extreme symptoms have usually nearly ceased by the time the majority of people are in their 40s or 50s. OCPD is approximately twice as prevalent in males than females, and occurs in between 2.1 and 7.9 percent of the general population, making it the most prevalent personality disorder. A childhood with very controlling or protective parents or caregivers, or one in which they were often unavailable, may increase the risk of developing OCPD. But Captain Obvious says a person may have OCPD without any of the above factors as causes. In some case studies, adults can recall experiencing OCPD from a very early age. They may have felt that they needed to be a perfect or perfectly obedient child. This need to be good and follow the rules then carries over into adulthood. People with OCPD often experience anxiety that occurs with depression; and OCPD is generally seen as a coping mechanism, a way for the person to establish order in their lives and deal with their feelings. People experiencing OCPD often don’t recognize that their behavior is problematic, so they generally take some convincing before they agree to seek treatment. This can be very overwhelming to family members, especially if they’re dealing with constant criticism. The good news is that with time and treatment, many people with OCPD can find the motivation to change.

Personality Disorder not otherwise specified 

Each person is an individual and behaves in unique ways, so not everyone fits neatly into the personality disorders I’ve discussed. If a person doesn’t have enough symptoms to fully meet the criteria of a specific type, PD-NOS is the diagnosis used in this case. This may also be known as personality disorder trait specified PD-TS. These names can sound like opposites, but they both focus on the fact that the person has some personality disorder traits, but not enough of one specific type to fit in the box.

And as for personality disorders, in the words of Porky Pig… that’s all folks! 

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Personality Disorders

Personality Disorders

Hello people, I hope everyone had a great holiday weekend! Did everyone set off a bunch of fireworks? Did you grill some burgers or dogs, have some baked beans, and a scoop of potato salad? Top it off with some apple pie? Me neither. Can I just ask, why do people shoot off fireworks on Saturday day, like before the sun sets? Are they testing them to see if they’re loud enough? Just wondering. Maybe they can’t wait. Anyhoo, last week, we talked about Antisocial Personality Disorder, the first Cluster B personality disorder, the dramatic and erratic disorders. If you recall, ASPD is the official diagnostic term for the colloquial terms sociopathy and psychopathy. That’s the big takeaway. So this week, we’ll be continuing with the Cluster B’s with Borderline Personality Disorder. 

Borderline Personality Disorder

BPD is also sometimes called Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder, or EUPD, but I prefer Borderline. It always reminds me of that 80’s song. BPD is the most commonly diagnosed personality disorder, and was so called, because it was thought to lie on the “borderline” between neurotic disorders (meaning anxiety disorders) and psychotic disorders, such as schizophrenia and bipolar disorder. BPD is characterized by difficulties in regulating emotion. People with BPD experience big mood swings, and they feel a great sense of instability and insecurity. They feel emotions very intensely, often for extended periods of time, and it’s generally harder for them to return to a stable baseline after an emotionally triggering event. This difficulty can lead to impulsivity, poor self-image, and intense emotional responses to stressors. Struggling with self regulation and having a poor self-image essentially equates to a lack of a sense of self, and as a result, they often experience feelings of emptiness and extreme fears of abandonment, whether these are real or just perceived. They generally have a pattern of instability in their relationships, and there can be violence involved, especially in response to criticism. These unstable personal relationships often involve “splitting,” where the person alternates between idealization “I’m so in love!” and devaluation “I hate him!” Suicidal threats and acts of self-harm are common, and this is how and why many people with BPD frequently come to medical attention. Extreme stress responses can lead to dissociative feelings, meaning they feel disconnected from their thoughts or themselves, have “out of body” type feelings, potentially even psychotic episodes. They basically check out, and may not remember these events well afterwards. 

BPD signs and symptoms may include:

-Impulsive behaviors that can have dangerous outcomes, such as excessive spending, unsafe sex, reckless driving, gambling, overuse of substances, and binge eating

-Distorted and unstable self-image affecting moods, values, opinions, goals, and relationships

-Wide mood swings, often as a reaction to interpersonal stress

-Unstable and intense relationships

-Suicidal behavior or threats of self-injury

-Intense fear of being alone or abandoned, may be real or imagined

-Periods of intense depressed mood, irritability, or anxiety lasting a few hours to a few days

-Ongoing feelings of emptiness

-Frequent, intense displays of anger, often followed by shame and guilt

-Stress-related paranoia that comes and goes; when stress is severe, it can lead to brief psychotic episodes

It has been suggested that BPD often results from childhood sexual abuse, and that it is more common in women, in part because women are more likely to suffer sexual abuse. However, some argue that BPD is more common in women simply because women presenting with angry and promiscuous behavior tend to be labeled with it, whereas men presenting with similar behaviors tend instead to be labeled with ASPD, Antisocial PD. More recent research seems to back this up. Women are more likely to receive the diagnosis, because it is commonly thought of as a “female” disorder, even though there’s no such thing. In fact, of the estimated 1.4 percent of the adult U.S. population with BPD, nearly 75 percent of them are women.

Histrionic Personality Disorder

HPD is characterized by a pattern of excessive emotion and attention seeking. People with HPD generally like to be the center of attention at all times, and may actually be uncomfortable when they’re not. They often use physical appearance to draw attention to themselves, are often flirtatious, and can employ exaggerated or rapidly shifting emotions as a means to reach this goal. The surprise is that they usually lack a sense of self-worth, and they depend on attracting this attention to seek the approval of others in order to boost their wellbeing. They often seem to be dramatizing or playing a part in a bid to be seen and heard. The word “histrionic” is derived from the Latin histrionicus, meaning “pertaining to the actor.” People with HPD may take great care of their appearance, and behave in a manner that is overly charming or inappropriately seductive. Because they crave excitement, they tend to act on impulse and are easily suggestible, and they may place themselves at risk of an accident, or fall prey to exploitation. Their dealings with others often seem insincere or superficial, and in the long term, this can adversely impact their social and romantic relationships. They find this to be especially distressing, as they are very sensitive to criticism and rejection, and they react very poorly to loss or failure. It can result in a vicious cycle in which the more rejected they feel, the more histrionic they become, and the more histrionic they become, the more rejected they feel. Achieving any emotional or sexual intimacy may be difficult, and they may play a victim role, potentially without being aware of it. They may also try to control their partner using seduction or emotional manipulation, while becoming very dependent on them. They tend to be too trusting, especially of authority figures who they think may be able to solve all their problems. They often think relationships are closer and more intimate than they really are. They crave novelty and tend to bore easily, so they may change jobs and friends frequently. Delayed gratification is very frustrating to them, so their actions are often motivated by obtaining immediate satisfaction. 

HPD signs and symptoms may include:

-Constantly seeking attention

-Into instant gratification

-Excessively emotional, dramatic, or sexually provocative to gain attention

-Excessive concern with physical appearance

-Speaks dramatically with strong opinions, but few facts or details to back them up

-Makes rash decisions

-Easily influenced by others

-Shallow, rapidly changing emotions

-Believes relationships with others are closer than they really are

-Gullible and easily influenced by others

-Excessively sensitive to criticism or disapproval

-Low tolerance for frustration, easily bored by routine, often beginning projects without finishing them or skipping from one event to another

-Self-centered, rarely showing concern for others

-Good social skills, but use them to manipulate others, to be the center of attention

The estimated prevalence of HPD is less than 2 percent of the general population. It is usually evident by early adulthood, and is diagnosed more often in women than in men, but this may simply reflect the higher prevalence of women in clinical settings. There is a clear tendency for HPD to run in families, which suggests a genetic susceptibility, but the child of a parent with the disorder might simply be repeating learned behavior. Other environmental factors that might be involved include a lack of criticism or punishment as a child, and unpredictable attention given to a child by his or her parent(s), which tends to lead to confusion about what types of behavior earn parental approval.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder

NPD is characterized by an extreme feeling of self-importance, a sense of entitlement, and a need to be admired. The person is envious of others, and expects them to be the same of him. They typically lack empathy, and readily lie, exploit, or take advantage of others to achieve aims. To others, they may seem self-absorbed, controlling, intolerant, selfish, and/ or insensitive. If they feel ridiculed or obstructed, they can become very angry and even vengeful. Fueled by a belief that they’re special, and more important than others, they can have a reaction called “narcissistic rage,” which can have disastrous consequences for all involved. It’s human nature to be aware of and express our own needs, as well as want others to be aware of our abilities and achievements. These aren’t bad things, but people with NPD take this to the extreme. At the heart of it, they have fragile self-esteem, so they rely on others to recognize their worth and their needs. They are generally unhappy and disappointed when they’re not given the praise or special favors they believe they deserve. This can cause problems in all areas of life, work

school, and relationships. People with NPD usually put themselves on a pedestal, where they can look down on others and direct them, as they believe they are better than. They exaggerate their own talents and accomplishments, while downplaying those of others. They are usually preoccupied by power, success, and beauty, and may engage in impulsive behaviors, such as risky sex and gambling, in their pursuits of these goals.

NPD signs and symptoms may include:

-Fantasies about power, success, and attractiveness

-Entitled, conceited, snobby

-Exaggeration of achievements or talents

-Expectation of constant praise and admiration

-Exaggeration of intimacy with others, especially those with wealth or VIP status

-React negatively to criticism

-Show great charm but quickly become irritated or angry

-Talking at length about their own concerns but lacking interest in those of others

-Show aggression when faced with a threat to their ego

-Resent the successes of other people

-Arrogant, dismissive, or unaware of other people’s needs

-Perceived superiority that covers a deep seated insecurity

-Unreasonable expectations of favors and advantages

-Envy of others accompanies belief that others envy them

-Unfulfilling relationships; become unhappy, angry, and confused when things don’t go their way

-Typically have ongoing issues with work, school, relationships, finances, alcohol, substances

Research indicates that NPD affects 6.2 percent of the U.S. population, and is much more common in men than women, affecting 7.7 percent of men and 4.7 percent of women. There may be cultural influences associated with NPD, but this may be a stereotype. Diagnosing NPD specifically can be challenging, as the features tend to have so much overlap with other disorders. In addition, a person with NPD may not recognize that problems in their life stem from their own behavior, and they may blame others instead. Narcissists can be especially difficult to deal with. I’ve done a lot of family counseling for it, but the person with the diagnosis must accept it to make headway. Some NPD traits may appear similar to confidence, but healthy confidence and NPD aren’t the same thing. People who have healthy self-esteem are usually humble, while people with NPD, by definition, never are. It takes a lot of work on the patient’s part to modify behavior, but it can be done with sufficient motivation.

That’s the end of Cluster B Personality Disorders. Next week, we’ll tackle Cluster C disorders. 

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Personality Disorders

Personality Disorders

Hello people, welcome back to the blog, people! I hope everyone had a fantastic father’s day. Last week, we started getting into the signs and symptoms of personality disorders. We talked about the Cluster A odd and eccentric disorders: paranoid, schizoid, and schizotypal personality disorders. This week, we’ll be getting into Cluster B disorders, the dramatic and erratic disorders. 

Cluster B disorders are characterized by overly emotional or unpredictable thinking or behavior, and include antisocial personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, histrionic personality disorder, and narcissistic personality disorder. People with these disorders typically have difficulty regulating their emotions, as well as maintaining relationships, as others often see their behaviors as threatening or disturbing. Treating any personality disorder is challenging, but Cluster B has some of the most difficult to treat disorders for a variety of reasons, not the least of which is the stigma associated with the diagnosis. Another factor has to do with the affected person’s propensity to give an inaccurate account of signs and symptoms. These can be especially true for antisocial personality disorder or ASPD.

Antisocial personality disorder is characterized by a pervasive pattern of disregard for the rights of others. People with this disorder consistently show no regard for right and wrong, and ignore the feelings of the other people around them. This generally begins in childhood or early adolescence and continues into adulthood. After treating many people with ASPD, I can tell you that they can be the most charming, entertaining, witty, and fun to be around people you’ll ever meet. But in severe cases, they can live to exploit others in something akin to sport. ASPD makes people uncaring. They can act rashly, unsafely, and destructively, without an ounce of guilt when their actions hurt other people. That may even be the goal. They tend to be callous, cynical, and contemptuous of the feelings of others. They can be very manipulative, and due to these tendencies, it’s often difficult to tell whether they’re lying or telling the truth.

Speaking of, let me correct a myth. Two common terms affiliated with ASPD are psychopath and sociopath, but these terms are not interchangeable. Neither psychopath or sociopath are actual diagnoses in the world of psychiatry. They are colloquial terms to describe people with impulsive or reckless personalities who lack empathy for others. A psychopath is someone whose actions more tend to reflect calculation, manipulation, and cunning. They are deceptively charismatic and charming, and tend to mimic rather than experience emotions. They can do so with ease, as this is their stock in trade. By contrast, sociopaths are more able to form attachments to others, but they still tend to act insensitively, or in an unfeeling manner, and generally disregard social rules. They are also more easily agitated, and have a tendency to be more impulsive. Psychopaths are usually thought of as more deviant and violent, and less likely to blend into society than sociopaths. Everyone has their own definitions of the words psycopathy and sociopathy, and they probably come from movies and television. In reality, in the world of psychiatry, both carry a diagnosis of ASPD, and psycopathy is just a very severe form of ASPD. These are the individuals I was referring to that can be the most charming. Believe me, they make it easy to want to lower your guard, but with some, you may do so at your peril. 

ASPD signs and symptoms may include:

-Disregard for right and wrong

-Persistent lying or deceit to exploit others

-Callous, cynical, and disrespectful of others

-Criminal behavior

-Applying charm or wit to manipulate others for personal pleasure

-Arrogance, a sense of superiority, extremely opinionated

-Lack of compassion and empathy for others

-Unremorseful when confronted with wrongdoing

-Inability to admit mistakes

-Bullying demeanor, use threats to deal with personal conflict

-Impulsiveness or failure to plan ahead

-Unnecessary risk-taking or dangerous behavior 

-No regard for the safety of self or others

-Instability when it comes to work and home life

-Hostility, irritability, agitation, aggression, intimidation, violence

-Consistently irresponsible and repeatedly fail to fulfill work or financial obligations

-Mental health issues, may include talk of suicide or threatening suicide

ASPD affects approximately 2 to 4 percent of the population, often occurs alongside problems with drugs and alcohol, and is much more common in men. Some research has suggested when ASPD does develop in women, the condition may become more severe; and women with ASPD are even more likely to abuse substances than men. That said, research also indicates antisocial behavior may persist longer in men, and men with ASPD have an increased risk of early death. People with ASPD frequently fail to consider the negative consequences of their behavior, and they don’t generally learn from them either. In addition, they often violate the law, and behave violently or impulsively, becoming criminals. They are commonly unable to fulfill daily responsibilities related to family, school, or work. For all of these reasons, the highest prevalence of ASPD- 70 percent- is found among males who are in jails, prisons, or similar institutions. 

The risk factors associated with ASPD have been better studied than some of the other personality disorders. The genetic component applies, especially family history of ASPD or another personality disorder. But of note, adults with ASPD typically show symptoms of another disorder in childhood called conduct disorder, before the age of 15. Signs and symptoms of conduct disorder include serious, persistent behavioral problems, such as aggression toward people and animals, serious violation of rules, destruction of property, lying, cheating, and theft. Although ASPD is considered lifelong, in some people, there are certain symptoms- especially destructive and/ or criminal behavior- that may decrease over time. It’s not very clear on whether this is due to aging, or an increased awareness of the consequences of their behavior. Speaking of, some of the complications associated with ASPD can include homicidal or suicidal behaviors, low social and economic status, homelessness, and premature death, usually as a result of violence. Behaviors have consequences, that’s the lesson many people with ASPD fail to learn. 

Like anything else, symptoms occur on a spectrum, and vary in severity. ASPD doesn’t have to mean a person is violent or evil. The stigma associated with personality disorders in general, and ASPD in particular, may make it even more difficult for people who want to improve to get the help they need. More than 90 percent of people diagnosed with ASPD also live with another mental health issue, most often depression and/ or anxiety. Early intervention may be the key to treatment, so the ability of caregivers and educators to spot childhood conduct disorder is important. Negative attitudes toward “delinquents” may reinforce ideas such as, “I’m bad,” “I’ll never amount to anything,” or “No one cares what happens to me,” and these play a role in the development of ASPD. 

When people with ASPD do enter treatment, it’s more often to get help for a co-occurring condition, or because a legal authority or family member has required to do so. Among those who do get help, many drop out of treatment early. Negative attitudes and ineffective treatment methods can contribute to this. It’s important for people with ASPD to work with therapists who are willing to try a range of approaches to find the most effective treatment. A key factor in successful therapy is recognizing individual fault. People with ASPD who can’t admit or accept that their actions are harmful may not be able to improve. Exploring state of mind, including emotions, desires, and feelings toward others is critical for progress. Once the person better understands their thoughts, they can use this understanding to address their impulses, and potentially help control them. Research has shown treatment can help improve many of the behaviors associated with ASPD, with the strict caveat that the person is willing to work toward change. When successful, treatment not only improves the quality of life for the person with ASPD, it also has a positive impact on the people in their lives. 

Next week, we’ll continue with cluster B disorders, starting with borderline personality disorder.

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Personality Disorder Part 3

Personality Disorders, part 3

Hello, people! In last week’s blog, we talked about the cause of personality disorders, sort of the nature versus nurture debate, and how both genetics and environment play a role in developing these disorders. We also discussed some of the requirements for diagnosis: how the maladaptive behaviors or personality traits must be relatively stable over time and consistent across situations; that they must cause significant impairment in self and interpersonal functioning; and that they cannot be a result of the direct effects of a substance or general medical condition. Each of the ten disorders has its own set of diagnostic criteria based on the various signs and symptoms typically exhibited. And that’s what we’ll be getting into today- the signs and symptoms of personality disorders.

As I mentioned before, the DSM-5 allocates each of the ten personality disorders to one of three groups or clusters, A, B, or C, based on similar characteristics and symptoms. Many people with one personality disorder also have signs and symptoms of at least one additional personality disorder, and it is usually within the same cluster. I should note that it’s not necessary to exhibit all the signs and symptoms listed for a disorder to be diagnosed. So let’s get started on the first cluster.

Cluster A Personality Disorders

These are characterized by odd, eccentric thinking or behavior. They include paranoid personality disorder, schizoid personality disorder, and schizotypal personality disorder.

Paranoid Personality Disorder

PPD is defined by mistrust and suspicion so intense that it permeates thought patterns and behavior, interfering with daily functioning. A person with PPD feels very wary of others, believing that they want to harm them. They are always on guard for signs that someone is trying to threaten, mistreat, or deceive them. No matter how unfounded their beliefs, they may repeatedly question the faithfulness, honesty, or trustworthiness of the people around them, whether they are friends, family, spouse, and/ or lovers. They may be defensive or sarcastic, which may elicit a hostile response from others. This response, in turn, then seems to confirm their original suspicions, reinforcing their beliefs. When they perceive they’re being persecuted, rejected, or slighted, they’re likely to respond with hostility, angry outbursts, and/ or controlling behavior; and they often deflect any blame onto others. Their fearful and distrustful perceptions make forming and maintaining close relationships very difficult. In addition, they’re often able to find and exaggerate the negative aspects of any situation or conversation, which also strains relationships. These qualities affect their ability to function at home, work, and school. Because of these symptoms, the condition often results in social withdrawal, tenseness, irritability, and lack of emotion.

Common PPD symptoms include:

-Suspecting, without justification, that others are trying to exploit, harm, or deceive them.

-Doubting or obsessing on the lack of loyalty or trustworthiness of family, friends, and acquaintances.

-Refusing to confide in people for fear that any information they divulge will be used against them.

-Becoming detached or socially isolated 

-Interpreting hidden, malicious, demeaning, or threatening subtext or meanings in innocent gestures, events, or conversations.

-Having trouble working with others, being argumentative and defensive.

-Being overly sensitive to perceived insults, criticism, or slights. 

-Quickly feeling anger, snapping to judgment, and holding grudges.

-Responding to imagined attacks on their character with anger, hostility, or controlling behavior.

-Repeatedly suspecting, without basis, their romantic partner or spouse of infidelity.

-Having trouble relaxing due to an inability to let their guard down.

PPD affects approximately 1 to 5 percent of people worldwide, though I’ve seen estimates of up to 10 percent. It often first appears in early adulthood, and is more common in men than women. Research suggests it may be most prevalent in those with a family history of schizophrenia. Despite being one of the most common personality disorders, PPD can be difficult to detect until symptoms progress from mild to more severe. This is because most people behave in mistrustful, suspicious, or hostile ways at some point in their lives without warranting a diagnosis of PPD. Spotting the signs can be further complicated as it often occurs with another mental health problem, such as an anxiety disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), substance abuse, or depression. When people with PPD have other diagnoses, it can compound their PPD symptoms. For example, depression and anxiety affect mood, and shifts in mood can make someone with PPD more likely to feel paranoid and isolated.

Professional treatment can help someone with PPD manage symptoms and improve their daily functioning. But due to the very nature of the disorder, most people with PPD don’t seek help, as they don’t see their suspicious behavior as unusual or unwarranted. Rather, they see it as rational. They are defending themselves against the bad intentions and deceptive, untrustworthy activities of those around them. As far as they’re concerned, their fears are justified, and any attempts to change how they think only confirms their suspicions that people are “out to get them” in some way. In addition, their intense suspicion and mistrust of others often includes mental health professionals. They question their motives in trying to help, and it can take a fair amount of time to build enough trust so they feel comfortable confiding in them and following their advice. 

Schizoid Personality Disorder

The term “schizoid” indicates a natural tendency to direct attention toward one’s inner life and away from the external world. Please note that while their names sound alike, and they might have some similar symptoms, schizoid personality disorder is not the same thing as schizophrenia. People with schizoid PD tend to be distant, detached, aloof, and more prone to introspection. They often choose to be alone, and have little to no desire for social or sexual relationships. In addition to being indifferent to other people, they are also indifferent to social norms and conventions. They seem to not care about external praise or criticism, and commonly demonstrate a lack of emotional response. They are generally “loners” who prefer solitary activities. Many people with schizoid personality disorder are able to function fairly well, although they tend to choose jobs that allow them to work alone, such as night security officers, library, or lab workers. 

A competing theory about people with schizoid PD is that they are in fact highly sensitive with a rich inner fantasy life. That they experience a deep longing for intimacy, but find initiating and maintaining close relationships too difficult or distressing, and as a result, choose to retreat into their inner world, which they create with vivid detail. 

Common Schizoid PD symptoms include:

-Lack of interest in social or personal relationships, preferring to be alone

-Limited range of emotional expression

-Inability to take pleasure in most activities

-Inability to pick up normal social cues

-Difficulty relating to others

-Appearance of being cold or indifferent to others

-Little or no interest in intimacy or in having sex with another person

-May commonly daydream and/or create vivid fantasies of complex inner lives.

-Often reclusive, organize life to avoid contact with other people

Available statistics suggest that between 3 to 4 percent of the general population has schizoid PD, though it’s very difficult to accurately assess the prevalence, because people with schizoid PD rarely present for medical attention. This is because they generally function so well, and their preferences have few or no negative legal or societal consequences. Schizoid PD usually begins in late adolescence or early adulthood, affects men more often than women, and is more common in people who have close relatives with schizophrenia.

Schizotypal Personality Disorder

STPD is characterized by oddities of appearance, behavior, and speech, unusual perceptual experiences, and anomalies of thinking similar to those seen in schizophrenia. People with STPD have a higher than average probability of developing schizophrenia, and the condition used to be called “latent schizophrenia.” Their anomalies of thinking can include odd beliefs, suspiciousness, obsessive ruminations, and magical thinking, which is being overly superstitious or thinking of themselves as psychically powerful. An example may be believing that they have a “sixth sense” or thinking that speaking of the devil can make him appear. This may lead them to develop what are called ideas of reference- the false belief or intuition that occurrences, events, or details in the world relate or refer directly to themselves. People with STPD generally don’t understand how relationships form, or the impact of their behavior on others. They may react oddly in conversations, not respond, or talk to themselves. They have difficulty with responding appropriately to social cues, often misinterpret people’s motivations and behaviors, and develop significant distrust of others. This can cause excessive social anxiety, and can lead them to fear social interaction, thinking that other people are harmful. While people with STPD and people with schizoid PD both avoid social interaction, people with STPD do so because they fear others, whereas people with schizoid PD do so simply because they have no desire to interact with others, or find interacting with them too difficult. 

Schizotypal personality disorder typically includes five or more of these signs and symptoms:

-Being a loner and lacking close friends outside of the immediate family

-Limited or inappropriate emotional responses, “flat emotions”

-Persistent and excessive social anxiety, tendency to be stiff and awkward when relating to others

-Very uncomfortable with intimacy

-Commonly misinterpret events, ie feeling that something has a direct personal offensive meaning, when it is actually harmless or inoffensive 

-Distorted perceptions or odd perceptual experiences, ie mistaking noises for voices, hearing a voice whisper their name, or sensing an absent person’s presence

-Peculiar, eccentric, or unusual thinking, beliefs, or mannerisms

-Suspicious or paranoid thoughts and constant doubts about the loyalty of others

-Belief in special powers, such as mental telepathy or superstitions

-Dressing in peculiar ways, such as wearing oddly matched clothes or appearing unkempt

-Peculiar style of speech: highly variable, this may include unusual patterns of speaking, rambling oddly during conversations, vague speech, or speaking in excessive detail, in metaphors, or in an overly elaborate manner. 

The prevalence of STPD ranges from approximately 1 to 4 percent of the population, and is more common in men than in women. STPD occurs more often in relatives of patients with schizophrenia or another Cluster A personality disorder. In fact, people that have an immediate family member with STPD can be as much as 50 percent more likely to develop it, as compared to people without that family history. People with STPD typically disagree with the suggestion their thoughts and behavior are disordered, and seek medical attention for depression or anxiety as opposed to the disorder. While it is typically diagnosed in early adulthood, some signs and symptoms, such as increased interest in solitary activities, or a high level of social anxiety, may be seen in the teen years. These children may also underperform in school, or appear socially out of step with peers, and this may result in teasing or bullying. STPD is likely to endure across the entire lifespan, though treatment, such as medications and therapy, can improve symptoms. Without treatment, individuals with STPD are at high risk for having major difficulty with work and relationships. 

That’s the end of Cluster A personality disorders. Next week, we’ll cover Cluster B.

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Personality Disorders part 2

Welcome back to the blog, people. Last week we started a new series on personality disorders, which are one of the most common of the severe mental disorders. A personality disorder is marked by rigid patterns of thoughts and behaviors that cause significant life impairment, and deviate from what is generally expected, or considered “normal” by society. There are four core defining features that are common to all personality disorders. They are distorted thinking patterns, problematic emotional responses, impulse control issues, and interpersonal difficulties. In order for a diagnosis to be made, a person must demonstrate significant and lasting difficulties in at least two of those four areas. We’ll talk more about diagnosis later; first let’s talk about what causes personality disorders.

As we talked about last week, personality is the combination of thoughts, emotions and behaviors that makes you unique. It’s the way you view, understand, and relate to the outside world, as well as how you perceive yourself. Your personality forms during childhood, and it’s shaped through an interaction of your genetics and your environment, often referred to as nature and nurture. Have you ever been told ‘You remind me of Uncle Jimmy, the way you do xyz.’ This may be because certain personality traits can be passed on to you by your parents through inherited genes. That is to say, these natural traits may be heritable. The nurture refers to your environment, the surroundings you grew up in, the events that occurred, and your relationships with family members and others.

The exact cause of personality disorders isn’t known. Just as personalities are shaped by genetics and environment, personality disorders are thought to be caused by a combination of these genetic and environmental influences. It’s thought that your genetics may make you prone to developing a personality disorder, and then something in your environment- some life situation- may trigger the actual development. In other words, the tendency to develop a personality disorder can be inherited, but not the disorder itself. The disorder only arises if/when something interferes with the development of the healthy personality. For most personality disorders, levels of heritability are about 50 percent, which is similar to, or even higher than, that of many other major psychiatric disorders. There’s no clear reason why some people develop the feelings and behaviors associated with personality disorders, while other people don’t. The social circumstances we grow up in and the quality of the care we receive greatly affect the way our personality develops, so they seem to be part of the equation. 

The nurture side of the coin carries a lot of weight in developing personality disorders. Most of the patients I’ve diagnosed had something happen during their childhood. They may have had a chaotic family life, too little parental support, or a history of traumatic event(s). Trauma doesn’t have to mean emotional, physical, or sexual abuse; it may be the loss of a parent, or extreme poverty or neglect. Captain Obvious says that not everyone who experiences a traumatic situation will develop a personality disorder, and not everyone who develops a personality disorder will have had a traumatic experience. People have unique reactions, and develop different coping methods to deal with the situation they’re presented with. That’s often the core of the issue in the way personality disorders can develop; the strategies needed for coping with pain, fear, and anxiety as a child aren’t ones that are helpful or appropriate in adult life, and may in fact be harmful. That should sound familiar, no… perhaps maladaptive? 

Although we can’t label a precise cause, we know that there are certain factors that seem to increase the risk of developing or triggering the condition. In addition to an abusive, unstable, or chaotic family life during childhood, other risk factors seem to include a diagnosis of childhood conduct disorder, and variations in brain chemistry and structure. A family history of personality disorders or other mental illness is another risk factor. We know of some specific links; for example, a family history of depression may increase the risk of developing borderline personality disorder and/ or obsessive-compulsive personality disorder.

Diagnosing Personality Disorders

This can be a difficult diagnosis to make, and it never happens quickly. It involves a thorough medical and social history and multiple assessments, often over an extended length of time. Each of the ten personality disorders have criteria that must be met to qualify for diagnosis. Generally speaking, it requires finding a persistent, inflexible pattern of maladaptive traits across many life circumstances. They must also cause significant distress and impairment in at least two of the four aforementioned core areas: the way you perceive and interpret yourself, other people and events; the appropriateness of your emotional responses; how well you function when dealing with other people and in relationships; and whether you can control your impulses. 

It’s important to remember that everyone can exhibit maladaptive behavior from time to time. In order to meet the diagnostic requirement of a personality disorder, these traits must cause functional impairment and/or subjective distress, and they must be persistent and inflexible; meaning they can be repeatedly observed without regard to time, place, or circumstance. Other considerations are age of onset and the exclusion of other possible causes, like other mental health disorders, substance use, or history of head trauma. 

Next week, we’ll start taking a closer look at the ten personality disorders; we’ll talk about the signs and symptoms for cluster A, the “Odd and Eccentric” disorders: paranoid, schizoid, and schizotypal personality disorder.

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The Cult of Personality…Disorders

The Cult of Personality… Disorders

Hello, people! Last week, we talked about thyroid disease and mental health, how they may exist together, and how some of the symptoms overlap. It’s definitely something to keep in mind when you’re looking for a diagnosis, and even once you’ve been diagnosed with one, as it doesn’t eliminate the other. And that brought the thyroid series to a close. If you remember nothing else, it should be that since the thyroid regulates metabolism- how every cell in the body uses energy from food to do its thing- its function controls literally everything in the body. So when it’s not working properly, the symptoms can vary widely. It may seem subtle at first, but eventually, you’re going to know about it, so the sooner you pick up on it, the better. 

Now moving on to our next topic, personality disorders. What are they? Disorder is fairly straightforward, so let’s talk about personality. Our personality is the collection of thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that makes each one of us the individuals we are. The traits of our personalities represent our patterns of thinking, perceiving, reacting, and relating to people, places, and things in our world. We don’t always think, feel, and behave in exactly the same way- that depends on the situation we’re in, the people we’re with, and all sorts of other interconnecting factors. We’re meant to be flexible to a point, but our personality traits remain relatively stable over time. Are you very talkative or very quiet? Are you constantly moving or are you a couch potato? A social butterfly or a bookworm? Are you a worry wart, always anxious, or laid back and unconcerned? These fundamental patterns make up our personality traits, and they imply consistency and stability. 

Personality disorders exist when these traits become so pronounced, rigid, and maladaptive that they impair interpersonal function. Maladaptive is such a great shrinky word. It just means more harmful than helpful, as opposed to adaptive, more helpful than harmful. Fun fact: every living organism, from bacteria to humans, displays maladaptive and adaptive traits, though they don’t pertain to behavior or personality in every case. In this case, maladaptations are patterns of behavior that are detrimental or counterproductive, that interfere with life. As applied to personality disorders, these maladaptive patterns of behavior deviate from what is considered “normal” or expected by society. Put it all together, and what is a personality disorder? It’s a type of mental disorder marked by rigid and enduring patterns of thoughts and behaviors that deviate from the expectations of society, and cause significant impairment in many areas of a person’s life. 

According to the shrink bible, the DSM-5, personality disorders are primarily problems with self identity and interpersonal functioning. That’s a shrinky way of saying people with personality disorders have problems with how they perceive themselves and how they interact with others. This affects how they form and maintain relationships with employers, family, friends, and intimate partners. They generally have poor coping skills, and tend to repeat patterns of behavior which are often volatile, confusing, and difficult. Maladaptive behavior may have consequences, and can cause significant problems in relationships, social activities, work, school, and potentially every facet of life. Some disorders may be so problematic that people actually avoid relationships whenever possible. These problems lead to distress, not only to the person with the disorder, but to those around them. Unlike people with anxiety or mood disorders- who know they have a problem but are unable to control it- people with personality disorders are often not aware that they have a problem, and as a result, will not seek treatment on their own. If they do, it’s the distress caused by the consequences of the maladaptive behaviors that lead them to seek treatment, rather than any discomfort with their own intrinsic thoughts and feelings. In my experience, when they do seek treatment, the chief complaint is often of depression or anxiety rather than the actual manifestations of the personality disorder.

Personality disorders are among the most common of the severe mental disorders, and often occur along with other mental illnesses, such as substance abuse disorders, anxiety disorders, and mood disorders, like depression and bipolar disorder. It’s estimated that 10 percent to 13 percent of the world’s population suffer from some form of personality disorder, and it’s thought to be underdiagnosed. While signs are sometimes apparent during childhood, most personality disorders start to become evident during the teenage years, as the personality further develops and matures. As a result, almost all diagnoses occur after the age of 18. As far as prevalence, there are no clear distinctions in terms of ethnicity. Regarding gender, most differences exist in the manifestation of symptoms within each disorder, as opposed to prevalence of diagnosis among the ten disorders, with three exceptions: antisocial personality disorder is far more common in men, while borderline and histrionic personality disorders are more common in women. Though they’re considered chronic or enduring, more recent studies indicate that some types of personality disorders may become less severe over time. 

Personality Disorders: Ten Types

The DSM-5 allocates each of the ten personality disorders to one of three groups or clusters: A, B, or C. Each disorder rarely appears in its “textbook” form, they often blur into one another. Their division into clusters is intended to reflect this tendency, with any given personality disorder most likely to blur with others within its cluster. Many people diagnosed with one personality disorder also have signs and symptoms of at least one other, typically within the same cluster.

Cluster A personality disorders are characterized by odd, eccentric thinking or behavior. They include paranoid personality disorder, schizoid personality disorder, and schizotypal personality disorder.

Cluster B personality disorders are characterized by dramatic, overly emotional, erratic or unpredictable thinking or behavior. They include antisocial personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, histrionic personality disorder, and narcissistic personality disorder.

Cluster C personality disorders are characterized by anxious, fearful thinking or behavior. They include avoidant personality disorder, dependent personality disorder, and obsessive-compulsive personality disorder. Please note this is not the same as obsessive-compulsive disorder, OCD.

Our understanding of personality disorders and what it means to experience them is constantly evolving. It can be a controversial diagnosis, especially in regard to terminology.  

Incidence and prevalence statistics ultimately depend on where clinicians draw the line between a “normal” personality and one that leads to significant impairment. Diagnosing personality disorders reliably is difficult. Why? How far from “normal” must personality traits deviate before they can be counted as disordered? How significant is “significant impairment”? And how is “impairment” to be defined? Next week, we’ll continue with personality disorders, though I won’t be answering those questions… those are just food for thought. 

I hope you enjoyed this blog and found it to be interesting and educational. If you did, let me know. If you didn’t, let me know that too!

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Personality and Behavior: DISC Model

Personality and Behavior: DISC Model

Wikipedia defines personality as the “characteristic set of behaviors, cognitions, and emotional patterns that evolve from biological and environmental factors.” I’m sure they probably go on to list those factors in the third through fifth paragraphs, so this short definition seems neat and tidy without really committing to much. But as we all know, when you’re dealing with humans, things aren’t ever simple. In reality, there’s no formal or universal definition, but that’s okay, because it gives psych nerds something to argue about. Because there’s no universally accepted meaning, all definitions are essentially theories, most of which center somewhere around an individual’s psychological motivations and resulting interactions with their environment. Alternatively, people can refer to it as character, temperament, or disposition, but in my opinion, no matter what you call it, the bottom line is that each person has a unique combination of characteristics or qualities that form a distinctive set, and these govern their perspectives, motivations, and behaviors. 

Now, before I really get into this week’s topic, this is a good place for me to add a disclaimer: When addressing concepts like personalities and behaviors with a large group of people, I have to simplify and generalize, because these are nuanced subjects with far too many influential and individual factors than I could ever address in a blog. So if there are any psych police out there on patrol, please don’t write me a ticket for simplifications and generalizations. 

Now that that’s out of the way, I’ll start with a question: have you ever noticed at times how different the judgement and behaviors of your family and friends can be from your own? My profession means that I literally spend the majority of my life examining what someone does, their behavior(s), and why they do it, their motivation(s). I’m sure you’ve been in many situations where you’ve asked yourself, “Why did he/ she dothat?” or “What were they thinking?” While sometimes it can be frustrating to have a difference of opinion with people, the truth is that life would be boring if we all thought and acted the same way. 

So how do you understand and reconcile these differences? Believe it or not, the starting point of understanding people is actually pretty simple; accept just one fact: that while I’m sure you’re fabulous, everyone is not like you. In point of fact, everyone is not like everyone else, either. If you search for a definition of the word personality, you’ll invariably find the words “characteristic” and “unique” included, along with other synonyms. These are all evidence of, and pretty words to convey, one fact: that we’re all different. We all carry our life experiences and opinions with us, and we filter everything we see, hear, and experience through them, so they color our perceptions and motivations; and these in turn influence our behaviors. I believe the saying goes something like “different isn’t bad, it’s just different,” and I can roll with that. Each of us is unique; we think differently, and therefore behave differently. It’s really a good thing; far, far better than the alternative.

But behavior and personality can be easily misunderstood, and if that becomes chronic, these repeated misunderstandings tend to become areas of stress that affect a person’s happiness, which in turn affects motivation and productivity in every aspect of life. If you’ve ever been in a situation where you felt like you couldn’t “get along” with someone, on some fundamental level, you probably just don’t understand them. A lack of understanding and acceptance of differences can lead to tension, disappointment, and miscommunication. When issues like these go unresolved, they tend to build, and ultimately, can lead to resentment. Resentments can be notoriously difficult to untangle, so in the end, it’s far better to avoid the original problem if you can. Admittedly, that’s often easier said than done, especially if you don’t have a clue what on earth is going on inside the mind of another person. I’ll shed some light on that, so that hopefully by the end of this blog, you’ll have more insight on what that may be.  

If the problem is associated with misunderstanding(s), then it only follows that the solution to that problem probably has a lot to do with understanding. When I say that, I’m not talking about holding hands and singing kumbaya with everybody… I’m saying that accepting that people have different opinions from yours, and then making reasonable attempts at understanding where they’re coming from, will serve you better than being obstinate and absolutely refusing to do so. That said, the success of nearly every solution is in its application, so how exactly do we better understand people? There is a relatively simple visual model that can serve as a key to understanding the basics on how people behave. It’s called The DISC Model of Human Behavior, aka DISC model. It can be applied to loosely categorize a person’s personality traits and extrapolate their motivating factors and behavioral styles. More on that later.

Before I get into the DISC model, time for another disclaimer: Because personality and behavior are such diverse and nuanced human attributes, and since the DISC model is a theoretical one, it isn’t used for diagnostic or clinical applications. In other words, when you come into my office and tell me your life story, I’m not running through it in my head looking to categorize you as one of four types. People are complex and DISC is by nature more simple and general; and rarely, if ever, does anyone fall perfectly into any one type. That said, I’m covering this model today in blog form because I think it’s an interesting and practical way for everyday non-clinical people to better understand themselves and others, and to apply that in an effort to communicate more effectively with people who have differing perspectives… which is basically everyone! 

Why Personality Traits and Behavior Matter

Why should you care to learn about behavior and personality or the DISC model? Believe it or not, personality and people skills are important aspects of life: personal, social, and workplace. If you can’t work in cooperation with other people, it can be really tough to make it in this world. It can affect your ability to keep a job or advance your position, to make friends, and to keep peace with partners, family, and friends. We’re all familiar with IQ, our intelligence quotient, and we spend years in school developing and learning how to effectively use our minds. But developing your personality to effectively use behavior is also vital to successful living. Studies have shown that technical skill, beginning with intelligence and developed through education and experience, accounts for only 15% of success in the workplace; the other 85% has been shown to actually come from people skills. These skills are developed through learning better ways to behave, communicate, and interact with others. The DISC model is commonly applied as a tool to increase your ability to understand yourself and others, and communicate more effectively with everyone.  

History of the DISC Model

Even if it sounds like one, this isn’t a new age, hippy-dippy-trippy idea. Au contraire. Let’s get in the waaay-back-machineand go to Greece, around about 300 B.C.-ish. Why? To see Hippocrates. Whenever I hear his name I can’t help but smile despite myself, because it always makes me think of Bill & Ted’s Excellent Adventure. When they met Hippocrates, they mispronounced his name like the murderous mammal + crates, pronounced like it rhymed with plates, and in their characteristic burner dude affectations. And now the memory of that movie quote is inextricably linked to his name in my mind.. I hear them say it every time. Anyway, back to the topic at hand. Hippocrates was a physician, but also a rebel! And thankfully so. At a time when most of his fellow Greeks were attributing sickness to The Fates, superstition, and the wrath of the gods, Hippocrates espoused the firm belief that all forms of illness had a natural cause. Which, believe me, is a far better alternative than worrying about appeasing The Fates, the witches, and the gods. At any rate, perhaps in pondering the natural basis of illness, or maybe ways to prove his theory to his colleagues, Hippocrates began to recognize that the behaviors of individuals seemed to follow distinct patterns, and he began to loosely categorize the differences in these behaviors. 

While Hippocrates had the original notions on behavioral patterns, many psychologists and scientists continued to explore and expand on his theory. In 1928, Dr. William Marston wrote The Emotions of Normal People, in which he theorized that people are motivated by four intrinsic characteristics or factors that direct predictable behavioral patterns, and described these four factors as personality types. He then created a visual model that utilized a circle divided into quadrants to represent these four personality types. In his original work, he labelled them as D, I, S, C: Dominance, Inducement, Submission, and Compliance. And poof… the DISC model was born.

From what I’ve read, Marston was kind of a freaky guy, and the slightly(?) deviant undertones of his word choices “dominance, inducement, submission, and compliance” seem to confirm this. Even though he was a well respected psychologist by day, he was also a surprisingly successful comic book author by night, and is in fact credited for creating the comic book character “Wonder Woman.” She’s an Amazonian, a race of female warriors from an island where men were not allowed. This actually isn’t too much of a stretch, because Marston was also a champion of women’s rights. Despite this, he seemed to have had more than his fair share of female-centric scandal in his life. I found several references that said that he invented the first lie detector test, but also found some that credit someone else with this feat. Regardless, apparently he wasn’t exactly always on a first name basis with the truth, because he lied to the public about being a bigamist. Evidently, after he married his second wife (who was also a former student) and she moved in with him and his first wife, he told the public she was just a relative staying with them… and they fell for it. So during his bigamist marriage, they all lived together in a ménage à trois, and he actually fathered children with both women. But in spite of the scandal he caused with his colorful private life, Marston’s theories of human behavior are still widely accepted today. 

What is DISC Used For?

The DISC model is applied as a personal assessment tool designed to ascertain a person’s personality traits and behavioral styles. It’s essentially a series of questions that evaluate human behavior in various situations. For example, it looks at how you respond to challenges, rules, and procedures, how you influence others, and what your preferred pace is. 

While Marston’s theories and DISC model were generally well received, some organizations later modified it and created a negative tool used by organizations and employers to weed out undesirables. But in later years, to reflect a change in attitudes, it has since seen several iterations. Now all existing forms of it are used exclusively as positive tools of inclusion rather than being negative and judgemental. DISC assessments are used to foster understanding and respect, improve people skills, build better teams, increase productivity, reduce conflict, and relate and communicate with others more effectively; all of this is meant to translate to increased cooperation and the creation of better working relationships. In fact, the DISC model is widely accepted in the business community; so much so that many organizations and employers incorporate it into all associate training programs, but it is especially used in fields and positions related to sales, marketing, customer service, and management.

I was surprised to learn that DISC assessments have confirmed use in 70% of the Fortune 500 companies, including Exxon/Mobile, General Electric, Chevron, and Walmart. Pretty impressive, as these are strong companies with good management; and according to what I read, that’s where most of them focus their DISC utilization. 

But you can also apply the model to your personal life, to learn more about yourself and grow as a person, increase people skills, illuminate your own motivations, and uncover your strengths and blind spots, some of which you may not even be aware of. As a bonus, you’ll then be better prepared to answer certain questions that may come up in life; for example, when a prospective employer asks “What would you say your strengths are?” or even better, when your spouse or partner looks at you exasperatedly and asks, “Why the *bleep* do you do that?” Wouldn’t it be nice to have a handy answer to that one?! 

In the end, despite its generalizations, the model is sort of like “personalities for dummies”- not that I’m saying you’re dummies- I’m just saying it’s a simple and useful way for non-clinical people to better understand themselves and their own motivations, and apply that knowledge to relationships and everyday interactions, both in and out of the workplace. 

DISC Terminology: Four Behavioral Patterns

Since Marston’s time, while the general concept surrounding the DISC model has remained the same, some of the terminology has changed several times. Some publishers and reference models use a lowercase i in DISC as a way of distinguishing between different models and for trademarking assessments and reports (read: as a way of making money). DISC with a capital I can’t be trademarked, so I’ve used that form for our purposes. The terms used to convey the DISC personality/ behavioral types have also changed for several reasons: to reflect a change in attitudes and more positivity, as a way of distinguishing between different models, and for trademarking purposes; so now there are a few different versions that vary slightly. Different companies and publishers determine and apply their various terms, and I’ve listed the most popular ones, in an order with the ones that I find most applicable first and Marston’s being last.

D: Dominant / Dominance 

I: Inspiring / Interactive / Inducement

S: Supportive / Steadiness / Submission

C: Cautious/ Conscientious / Compliance

No matter what term is used, the basic traits and behavioral styles are essentially the same; I’ll cover those later.

I should note that now some publishers have apparently modified assessments to further extrapolate personality traits and behavioral styles; I’ve seen some that will describe up to twelve types, and even an article that referenced exactly 41 personality types. I didn’t fact-check or verify that, but just wanted to mention it as kind of an outlier. 

DISC Basics

This model is based on two fundamental observations about what drives people to behave the way they do, which are essentially their motivators. I want to emphasize something to keep in mind: as you look at fundamental behaviors, you’re looking at tendencies, not absolutes. Most people will tend to behave more one way than the other, but will behave both ways, to greater and lesser degrees, depending on the situation they find themselves in. Also, behaviors are fluid; they can and do change over time and vary by situation.

DISC: Two Fundamental Observations

(Internal) Motor and (External) Focus

-Some people are more outgoing, while others are more reserved. This is each person’s “pace,” or “internal motor.” It is sometimes simply referred to as the “motor” drive. Some people engage quickly and always seem ready to go, and these are considered outgoing types. Others engage more slowly or more cautiously, and these are considered reserved types.

-Some people are more task-oriented, while others are more people-oriented. This is each person’s “external focus” or “priority” that guides them; sometimes simply referred to as “focus.” Some people are more focused on getting things done, and these are considered task-oriented types. Others are more attuned to the people around them and their feelings, and these are considered to be people-oriented types.

Visualizing the DISC Model

As I mentioned, DISC is a visual model, and it utilizes a circle to represent the range of “normal” human behaviors. You can imagine it as a clock face.

To illustrate the application of the first fundamental observation, aka motor drive, imagine you divide a circle in half horizontally, as from 9 o’clock to 3 o’clock on a clock face. The upper half then represents Outgoing (or fast-paced) people, while the lower half represents Reserved (or slower-paced) people.

To illustrate the application of the second fundamental observation, aka focus drive, imagine you divide a circle in half vertically, as from 12 o’clock to 6 o’clock on a clock face. The left half then represents Task-Oriented people, while the right half represents those who are more People-Oriented.

When the two motor and focus circles are superimposed to combine them, you end up with four behavioral tendencies to help characterize people: Outgoing, Reserved, Task-Oriented, and People-Oriented. The balance of these four tendencies shapes the way each person sees life and those around them. 

To illustrate the incorporation of the two drives (motor and focus) you can imagine one clock face with two divisions (horizontal and vertical) and therefore in four quadrants. Starting at 12 o’ clock and moving clockwise, you would then see Outgoing at 12 o’clock, People-Oriented at 3 o’clock, Reserved at 6 o’clock, and Task-Oriented at 9 o’clock. 

By combining the two drives, you now have four total behavioral tendencies: from the upper left quadrant, moving clockwise, those tendencies are then: 

Outgoing and Task-Oriented (upper left quadrant)

Outgoing and People-Oriented (upper right quadrant) 

Reserved and People-Oriented (lower right quadrant)

Reserved and Task-Oriented (lower left quadrant).

Then to further define and describe these four behavioral tendencies, the DISC terms are added, one letter per quadrant: Dominant, Inspiring, Supportive, and Cautious. 

Illustratively, these are added to each of the four corners of the diagram, again starting with the upper left quadrant and moving in a clockwise direction: Dominant in upper left quadrant, Inspiring in upper right quadrant, Supportive in lower right quadrant, and Cautious in lower left quadrant.

Once added, starting with the upper left quadrant and moving in a clockwise direction, each DISC term correlates with the four behavioral tendencies such that:

Dominant types are Outgoing and Task-Oriented (upper left quadrant)

Inspiring types are Outgoing and People-Oriented (upper right quadrant) 

Supportive types are Reserved and People-Oriented (lower right quadrant)

Cautious types are Reserved and Task-Oriented (lower left quadrant).

What emerges is the full graphical description of the complete DISC model. 

Interpreting DISC

To make the quadrants easier to discuss, we typically call each quadrant a behavioral style or type, though some people use the phrase personality type. I’ll spare you the specifics as to why, but technically speaking, it’s not really accurate to use the word “personality” type or style with the DISC model, because it’s actually a behavioral model. While I tend to refer to it as a behavioral style, either term- personality or behavior- is generally acceptable for a colloquial discussion or a blog. 

DISCussion: Four Primary Behavioral Styles

While DISC refers to placement within four primary behavioral styles, always keep in mind that each individual person can, and usually will, display some of all four behavioral styles depending on the situation. The resultant blending of behavioral tendencies is often called a style blend, and each individual’s style blend will have more of some traits and less of others. 

The Dominant “D” Style

An outgoing, task-oriented individual will be focused on getting things done, solving problems, making things happen, and getting to the bottom line, usually as quickly as possible. They can sometimes be blunt, outspoken, and somewhat demanding. The key insights in understanding and developing a relationship with this type of person are respect and results.  

The Inspiring “I” Style

An outgoing, people-oriented individual is generally enthusiastic, optimistic, open, and trusting. They thrive on interaction and love to socialize and have fun. This person places emphasis on persuading others and is usually focused more on what others may think of them. The key insights in understanding and developing a relationship with this type of person are admiration and recognition.

The Supportive “S” Style

A reserved, people-oriented individual will place an emphasis on cooperation, sincerity, loyalty, and dependability. They enjoy working together as a team and thrive on helping or supporting others. They usually focus on creating and/ or preserving relationships and on maintaining peace and harmony. The key insights in understanding and developing a relationship with this type of person are friendliness and sincere appreciation.

The Cautious “C” Style

A reserved, task-oriented individual enjoys independence, and often fears being wrong. They will seek value, consistency, and quality information, and will usually focus on details, facts, rules, accuracy, and being correct. The key insights in understanding and developing a relationship with this type of person are trust and integrity.

I should also note that some organizations use a shortcut in discussing the different behavioral types, where the dominant type is also known as High D, the inspiring type is also known as High I, the supportive type is also known as High S, and the cautious type is also known as High C.

Behavioral Styles: Elevator Test

As you’ll see, this is a pun meant to give you an idea of your own behavioral style and to help you identify others. Captain Obvious says it’s not meant to be scientifically or clinically valid, people, it’s just to illustrate the four behavioral styles in a relatable, “everyday situation” kind of way.

The doors are about to close on a person who is eager to get on an elevator, which already has four people inside. One of the four people already inside glances at their watch, because they’re in a hurry and would prefer not to wait. But also inside is the bubbly, smiling, energetic second passenger who actually holds the door open while encouraging the newcomer to climb aboard. The third rider doesn’t mind if the new person gets on, and they simply step back to make room while patiently waiting for them to do so. The fourth passenger barely looks at the new guy, as they’re busily calculating the sum of everyone’s weight in their head while also looking around to estimate the age of the elevator. 

Did you see yourself in this scenario? Did you recognize the behavioral styles of the other elevator passengers? Read on to find out if you’ve got it.

This scenario demonstrates behavior of the Dominant (outgoing / task-oriented) person who wouldn’t really mind if the elevator door closes before the new guy can get on, because they’re just focused on getting where they need to be as quickly as possible. But that possibility is dashed by the Inspiring (outgoing / people-oriented) person who feels energized by the addition of yet another positive interaction to their day. The Supportive (reserved / people-oriented) person just calmly steps back to make room for the new guy because they empathize with him and are willing to be accommodating. All of this while the Cautious (reserved / task-oriented) person almost can’t help but make sure the added person doesn’t exceed the weight limit of the old elevator and potentially cause them all to get stuck… or worse. 

Notice that there were four different people who responded to the same exact event in very different ways? People are motivated differently, and therefore think differently, so they behave differently. 

Takeaways

Every individual person has a unique combination of characteristics and qualities that form a distinctive set, and these govern their perspectives, motivations, and behaviors. 

The DISC model developed by Marston is used as the basis for varying assessments of personality traits and behavioral styles.

While it is simplified and generalized, it can be an effective and empowering tool to examine motivating factors, to uncover and address blind spots, and to identify, highlight, and articulate strengths.

It can be used by people to better understand themselves and others, and to apply that understanding in an effort to improve people skills and to communicate more effectively with people who have differing perspectives.

It is commonly used in the professional arena, especially in Fortune 500 companies. Employers often use it for determining placement of new employees, to build better teams, increase productivity and communication, reduce and resolve conflict, and foster acceptance and understanding. 

Each person has a unique blend of all of the major personality traits and behavioral styles to a greater or lesser extent.

Behavioral patterns are fluid and dynamic, and can change over time or as a person adapts to his or her environment.

I hope you enjoyed this blog and found it to be interesting and educational. If you did, let me know. If you didn’t, let me know that too!

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MGA

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Sociopath or A-hole How To Tell The Difference

Sociopath or A-hole?

How to Tell the Difference

When you think of a sociopath, you probably picture someone like Dr. Hannibal Lecter in Silence of the Lambs, or Annie Wilkes in Stephen King’s Misery. But like most mental health conditions, sociopathy- otherwise known as antisocial personality disorder, or ASPD for short- exists on a spectrum. And clearly, kidnapping and hobbling your favorite author or enjoying a cannibalistic dinner with a nice chianti would be pretty out there on that spectrum. 

Before I get started on the details of recognizing sociopathy, I want to quickly remind you about last week’s blog topic, the differences between sociopathy and psychopathy. Both disorders are considered ASPD’s, but people tend to use the terms sociopath and psychopath interchangeably, though they mean different things. Typically, sociopaths are a product of their childhood environment or upbringing. Disturbed and unhinged, they’re not always big planners, so they’re more prone to impulsive behavior. They’re very likely to break rules and/ or laws without thinking twice, but as for going on a murderous rampage? Not so much. On the other hand, psychopaths are essentially born, and have an innate disdain for others coupled with a compulsive need for violence. They are cold and calculating, and can even be charming when it suits their purposes, a la Ted Bundy. Psychopaths are at the most extreme end of the antisocial personality disorder spectrum, and while all psychopaths are antisocial, not all antisocials are psychopaths. 

There are many people with difficult personalities out there, all of which can impact your life to varying degrees. These are your garden variety a-holes, and they’re usually pretty simple-minded and relatively harmless if you don’t pay them much attention. But sociopaths have one of the most hidden personality disorders, as well as one of the most dangerous. They often slip under the radar because they put so much energy into deceiving people. In my vast experience with sociopaths, most people don’t know what to watch out for, and they’re generally shocked at how easily they can be manipulated. In truth, anyone can be a target. The point of this week’s blog is to explain sociopathic behavior, help you identify potential sociopaths in your life, and share how to deal with them once you do. 

Sociopathy occurs in nearly 4 percent of the U.S. population, which works out to about one in 20-ish people. There is a clear link between ASPD and sex. You are 3 to 5 times more likely to be a sociopath if you own a Y chromosome; and only 25% of sociopaths are female. Obvi not all men are sociopaths, but being male can be one clue in identifying them.

Whether someone has intentionally deceived you for their own perverse pleasure, or you’ve had a college roommate eat the last of your mom’s famous homemade lasagna without asking before or apologizing after, you’ve experienced sociopathic behavior. Fortunately, your selfish roommate’s sociopathic behavior probably doesn’t make him an actual sociopath… it just makes him rude AF. 

So that begs the question: how can you differentiate between an a-hole and a sociopath? It’s not always as easy as it seems, because sociopaths can be masters of deception, and some traits might be hidden by their frequent lies. Remember too that they can be intelligent and good at manipulating people into doing what they want, so they may come across as friendly and outgoing when it’s really all a ruse.

That said, here are some of the general themes to be on the lookout for:

Sociopaths can be highly effective at getting you to overlook any warning signs you see or sense. That’s why they’re called con artists: they take you into their confidence, and you trust them. You will doubt yourself before you doubt them. They are narcissistic, believing they are better, smarter, cuter, funnier, and more interesting than anyone else. 

In a dating relationship, a sociopath may be the most loving, charming, affectionate, and giving person you have ever met. But, if it seems too good to be true, it usually is. They are likely to be secretly dating several other people. They can be very promiscuous and are loyal to no one. They’re also very quick to anger. If you dare to question them, their anger response is totally outside the scope of what would be considered ‘normal’.

They can be fast talkers and bull$#&t artists. They’ll say anything to cover up their secret activities, no matter how ridiculous it sounds. I have a patient that was actually living with 3 different women in 3 different houses, at the same time- and the women were happy and had no clue about his deception. I actually had him bring each of them (in separate appointments, of course) for a couple’s session, because I had to see it for myself. Get this…he would tell them that he did contract work for the CIA, so he couldn’t give them any details about it. When he would leave a woman to be with one of the others, he’d just say that he’d be gone all the next week on a secret mission. And then he would lament about how much he wished he could tell them all about it, but he just couldn’t, so they must never askhim about it. And they bought it, hook, line, and sinker! 

They quickly lose interest in a girl-/ boy- friend, but they’ll keep them hanging on with a few words of love, so that they can still have sex with them, borrow money from them (which is never returned) and maintain access to their house or car. They have no empathy, so they’ll use them until they’re not useful anymore, and then leave, feeling no remorse for any damage they’ve left in their wake.

They are secretive. They may pretend they are going to work at the office everyday, when they’re actually going out to deal drugs. Or gambling away their paycheck, then saying they were robbed. They’re often impulsive and irresponsible, and unable to maintain a job, so they don’t have money and need to find a reason to cover that up. They like to see how far they can control a situation, what they can get away with. Everything is done for their personal gain, and they have a greatly exaggerated sense of self-worth.  

Sociopaths love to play the victim. They’ll tell you a story about how someone else took advantage of them, or how life circumstances treated them very badly. This is a calculated tactic to get you to feel sorry for them, so that you’ll want to help them. This ploy works, because normal, healthy people naturally care about others, even strangers. Ted Bundy tore a page out of the sociopath’s play book and used to put a fake cast on his arm or leg, then drop a bunch of books near an isolated young woman on a college campus. Then he would ask her to help him carry his books back to his car, and when they leaned into his car to put the books in the back seat, he would shove them inside. And the rest was history.

I’ve seen firsthand how all of these kinds of activities have gone on under the radar for so many people in relationships with sociopaths. The targets are always shocked, because the sociopath was so good at living a lie. But as I tell the victims, that’s what they do. 

Officially diagnosing someone as a sociopath using the DSM-IV isn’t always as simple as you might think. But, if someone has three or more of the tendencies listed below, as Jeff Foxworthy would say, they might be a sociopath:

-Failure to conform to social norms (i.e, they break the law)

-Repeatedly lie or con others for profit or pleasure

-Fail to plan ahead or exhibit impulsive behavior

-Repeated irritability or aggression (i.e, they always get into fights)

-Reckless disregard for the safety of themselves or others

-Consistent irresponsibility (i.e, they can’t hold down a job or meet financial obligations)

-Lack remorse (i.e., they rationalize their actions or are indifferent to other people’s feelings)

Following is more information on some of the red flag symptoms of sociopaths to watch out for, based on criteria listed in the DSM-IV.

Symptom: Lack of empathy

Perhaps one of the most well-known signs of a sociopath is a lack of empathy, particularly an inability to feel remorse for their actions. When you don’t experience remorse, you’re basically free to do any horrible thing that comes to your sick mind. That’s a problem. 

Symptom: Difficult relationships

Sociopaths find it hard to form emotional bonds, so their relationships are often unstable and chaotic. Rather than forge connections with the people in their lives, they might try to exploit them for their own benefit through deceit, coercion, and intimidation.

Symptom: Manipulativeness

Sociopaths tend to try to seduce people and ingratiate themselves with the people around them for their own gain, or just for sheer entertainment. While some are charming, this doesn’t mean they’re all exceptionally charismatic. I’ve seen plenty that I would not call charming in any way, shape, or form. But they think they are of course; this can be an important distinction. 

Symptom: Deceitfulness

Sociopaths have a reputation for being dishonest and deceitful. They often feel comfortable lying to get their own way, or to get themselves out of trouble, whatever motivation they may come up with. They also have a tendency to embellish the truth when it suits them. 

Symptom: Callousness

Some sociopaths can be openly violent and aggressive. Others will cut people down verbally. Either way, they tend to show a cruel disregard for other people’s feelings.

Symptom: Hostility

Sociopaths are not only hostile themselves, but they’re more likely to interpret others’ behavior as hostile, which drives them to seek revenge. Revenge is a primary goal when a sociopath feels wronged.

Symptom: Irresponsibility

Sociopaths often have a deep disregard for financial and social obligations. Ignoring responsibilities is extremely common, which can include not paying child support when it’s due, allowing bills to pile up, and regularly taking time off work. Their needs and wants supersede everyone else’s, no matter who they are, even including their children. 

Symptom: Impulsivity

We all have our impulsive moments: a last minute road trip, a drastic new hairstyle, or a new pair of shoes you just have to have. But for sociopaths, making spur of the moment decisions with no thought for the consequences is part of everyday life. They find it extremely difficult to even make a plan, much less stick to it.

Symptom: Risky behavior

Combine irresponsibility, impulsivity, and a need for instant gratification, and you get risky behavior. It’s not surprising that sociopaths get involved in risky behavior, because they tend to have little concern for themselves, let alone the safety of others. This means that excessive alcohol consumption, drug abuse, compulsive gambling, unsafe sex, dangerous hobbies, and criminal activities are all on the sociopath’s to-do list.

Can sociopathy be cured or treated?

There’s no cure for sociopathy, and there isn’t a lot of evidence that it can be successfully treated. Typically, the main issue in treating it is that it’s unusual for a sociopath to seek professional help. One of the curious things about this disorder is a general lack of insight on the sociopath’s part. They may recognize that they have problems, might notice that they get into trouble on the job, and may recognize that their spouses are not happy with them. But they tend to blame other people, and other circumstances, for the trouble; this is part and parcel of the diagnosis. The good news is that symptoms of sociopathy and other ASPD’s seem to recede with age, especially among milder cases and in people that don’t do drugs or drink to excess. Cognitive behavioral therapy isn’t very helpful for treating the disorder itself, but it can help people to stop certain devious behaviors. Sociopaths might not really develop actual empathy or learn to feel badly about their actions, but they could possibly learn to stop eating their roommate’s lasagna.

So now you know the symptoms of sociopathy to look for and you’re better prepared to recognize a sociopath. But if you suspect that you’re dealing with a sociopath, what should you do?

The best and simplest answer is to get far away from them, to permanently extricate them from your life. If you don’t, they will seriously complicate that life. Unfortunately, that isn’t always possible. If it’s your boss or a relative, you might not be able to just cut ties and bolt, but you can learn how to deal with their sociopathic behavior and still remain true to yourself and your own mental health.

First, trust your instincts. A person doesn’t need a DSM diagnosis to be a manipulative a-hole who’s causing you harm. If they don’t care about your feelings, repeatedly lie to you, and manipulate your emotions for their pleasure, they aren’t someone you should be around, sociopath or not.

Secondly, remember that you cannot change this person. They may not realize that what they’re doing is abnormal, and they definitely don’t give a flip if it hurts you. You must let go of any illusions that you can fix them or get them to be a better person.

As you distance yourself from them, the sociopath might try to make deals with you. Do not go along with it! They don’t care about your feelings and they don’t obey any rules, so they will never honor any deal they offer. And even worse, when it fails (because it will) they will say that you were the one that ruined the deal; they’ll try anything to put any and all blame on you. So your best bet is to just avoid that crap all together.

If you’re not sure how to distance yourself from this person, or you need other tools to deal with them, talk to a therapist. They’re far better able to spot the true tendencies of a sociopath, and they can help you learn how to set boundaries or remove yourself from the situation. They can also help you cope with the harm the sociopath inflicted and the damage they left in their wake.

If the person seems like they’ll cause extreme harm to themselves or others, you can call an emergency mental health line. SAMHSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration 1-800-662-4357) is a good one. And If you are, or anyone else is, ever in any physical danger, call 911 immediately.

Now you know all the hallmark behaviors of a sociopath and what to do when you realize there’s one squirming around in your life. There are a bunch of sociopaths out there, so by all means, share the knowledge with your friends and family. 

For more information and patient stories on sociopathy and other personality disorders, you can read my book, Tales from the Couch, available on Amazon. And you can also check out my lectures and subscribe to my YouTube channel by searching under Mark Agresti. 

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Psychopaths and sociopaths Tomato Tomato or Tomato Potato

That dude in the little blue speedster flying down I-95 and using all three lanes to cut everyone off and pass them… what a total psycho! The captain of the high school cheerleading squad who’s demanding that her boyfriend work extra hours to pay for her hair and nails to get done every week… that chick is such a self-centered sociopath! We pin these labels on people easily, and often jokingly, but psychopathy and sociopathy are pretty serious states of being, sometimes far from a joking matter. 

Do you know someone who seems to have no understanding of what it means to show empathy or concern for others, someone who has no regard for right or wrong, or someone who actually seems to derive pleasure from hurting others? To you, this behavior and personality seem calloused and unreal, maybe even impossible to believe; but believe it…if the above characteristics sound familiar to you, you’ve probably crossed paths with a psychopath or sociopath. 

A lot of people use the labels psychopath and sociopath interchangeably when referring to a person who exhibits a wide array of creepy, odd, or dangerous behaviors. But while the two do share some common traits, there are other points that separate them as well. Both sociopaths and psychopaths have a patent disregard for the safety and rights of others, and manipulation and deceit are central features to both personalities. Contrary to popular belief and what you see in the movies, psychopaths and sociopaths are not necessarily bloodthirsty or violent. Surprised? Violence is actually not a necessary requirement for a diagnosis of psychopathy— but it is often present. In this blog, I’ll shed some light on sociopathic and psychopathic traits, go over why they’re grouped together, and also what sets them apart from one another.  

In actuality, neither psychopathy and sociopathy are official diagnoses on their own, but The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Illness puts them under the heading of antisocial personality disorders, meaning that people with psychopathy and sociopathy have a diagnosis of antisocial personality disorder, hereafter ASPD. 

ASPD is a mental health diagnosis characterized by a lack of empathy, ie an inability to care about the needs or feelings of others. Approximately 3 percent of the US population qualifies for a diagnosis of antisocial personality disorder. It is more common among males and more often seen in people with an alcohol or substance abuse problem, or in forensic settings such as prisons. People with antisocial personality disorder are usually master manipulators and absent of moral conscience. The exact cause of ASPD is not currently known, but environmental factors, genetics, and possible changes in the function and structure of the brain are believed to be factors that contribute to its development. Other contributing factors may include having a family history of mental health disorders or a history of living in an unstable or violent family in an abusive or neglectful environment. In both cases, some signs or symptoms are nearly always present in a person before the age of 15, so that by the time that person is an adult, they are well on their way to becoming a full fledged psychopath or sociopath.

The common features of a psychopath and sociopath lie in their shared diagnosis and key characteristics of ASPD:

Lack of empathy toward others

Constant deceitful or manipulative behavior

Little regard for the safety of others

Difficulty with all relationship types

Aggression or irritability

Criminal history

Lack of remorse or guilt for actions

Reckless and/or dangerous behavior

Laws/ Rules don’t apply to them

Regularly breaks or flouts the law

Impulsive and doesn’t plan ahead

Prone to fighting and aggression

Irresponsible, can’t meet financial obligations

As with many things in life, there are different levels of both psychopaths and sociopaths.

Some might be thieves or cheaters, while others could be actual killers. The most concerning difference between psychopaths and sociopaths is that when someone is a psychopath, you’ll probably never know it, never have the faintest idea… which is what makes them even more dangerous.

You’re probably familiar with some famous fictional psychopaths and sociopaths. How about psychopath Hannibal Lecter from Silence of the Lambs, or the psychopathic detective Dexter from the primetime crime drama of the same name. Or sociopathic pop culture hero, King Joffrey from Game of Thrones, and the sociopathic Joker in The Dark Knight. These characters all had ASPD and lacked empathy, broke laws and disregarded rules, ignored others’ rights, exhibited violent tendencies, and never felt an iota of guilt for their behavior, if they even knew they behaved badly and hurt people in the first place. Which they probably didn’t.

Traits of a Psychopath

Psychology researchers generally believe that people are born psychopaths, as it’s likely associated with genetic predisposition. The flip side is that sociopaths tend to be a product of their environment, perhaps as a result of abuse. But that’s not to say that psychopaths may not also suffer from some sort of childhood trauma. 

Research has shown that psychopathy might be related to physiological brain differences, as psychopaths often have underdeveloped areas of the brain in regions that are responsible for emotion regulation and impulse control.

Generally speaking, psychopaths are superficial, egocentric, and emotionally shallow. They’re practiced and smooth operators, and they will compliment you, make you feel good, and say all of the right things, until you find out later they’ve been playing you for their own purposes, using you, stealing money from you, or plotting some kind of crime…like your murder. 

They’re extremely manipulative and pros at gaining others’ trust. They have a hard time forming real emotional attachments with others, so they intentionally form shallow, artificial relationships designed to be manipulated in a way that most benefits them. They see people as pawns to be used to forward their own goals and agendas, and rarely, if ever, feel any guilt regarding how they treat others or how much they hurt them. 

Psychopaths can often be seen by others as being charming and trustworthy, as they hold steady, normal jobs. They tend to be very successful and well liked, much like master con artists. They may even have families and seemingly-loving relationships with a partner. And while they tend to be well-educated, they may also have learned a great deal on their own, living in and experiencing the real world. They are the princes most charming of all…until they aren’t anymore. Legendary psychopath Ted Bundy comes to mind here. Women found him smart and attractive, and they took him at face value; and that was their undoing.

When a psychopath engages in criminal behavior, they tend to do so in a way that minimizes risk to themselves. If that means they must implicate an innocent party in the behavior, so be it. They will carefully, and even obsessively, plan criminal activity to ensure they don’t get caught, having contingency plans in place for any and every possibility.

While psychopaths are like chameleons, seamlessly blending into their environment, sociopaths are easier to spot. The cool, calm psycho attitude is replaced by the hot-headed sociopathic one. They are rage-prone, and if things don’t go their way, they’ll get angry and aggressive, with emotional outbursts.

Traits of a Sociopath

Researchers tend to believe that sociopathy is the result of environmental factors, such as a child or teen’s upbringing in a very negative household; or in any situation that resulted in physical abuse, emotional abuse, or childhood trauma.

In general, sociopaths tend to be more impulsive and erratic in their behavior than their psychopath counterparts. While they also have difficulties forming attachments to others, some sociopaths may find it easier to form an attachment to a like-minded group. Unlike psychopaths, most sociopaths have a difficult time holding down a long-term job, fitting in properly with some social situations, and presenting a normal family life to the outside world.   

When a sociopath engages in criminal behavior, they may do so in an impulsive and largely unplanned manner, with little regard for the risks or consequences of their actions. They may become agitated and angered easily, sometimes resulting in violent outbursts. These kinds of behaviors increase a sociopath’s chances of being apprehended.

Who is More Dangerous?

As with many things in life, there are different degrees of severity in psychopaths and sociopaths. In reality, both pose risks to society, because they must constantly, 24/7-365, find ways to cope with a way of thinking and a way of life that is different from society’s accepted norm, and this can make them edgy. But, that said, psychopathy is the more dangerous disorder, because people with it experience far less guilt connected to their actions. Also, a psychopath is better able to dissociate from their actions, meaning they can easily separate emotional feelings from any actions they undertake. Without this emotional involvement, any pain that other people suffer is completely meaningless to a psychopath. All of the most famous serial killers have been psychopaths.

Psychopath v Sociopath: Childhood Clues

Clues indicative of later psychopathy and sociopathy are usually available in childhood. Most people who are diagnosed with sociopathy or psychopathy have had a previous pattern of behavior in which they violated the basic rights of others or endangered their safety. They also often have a childhood history of breaking rules and laws, as well as societal norms too. These kinds of childhood behaviors are recognized as a conduct disorder. 

Conduct Disorders:

Four categories of problem behavior

Aggression to people and animals

Destruction of property

Deceitfulness or theft

Serious violations of rules or laws

If you recognize any of the above four symptoms or any of the specific childhood clues of conduct in a child or young teen, they’re at much greater risk for having antisocial personality disorder. We’ll talk about what to do with that next week. Also next week, we’ll get deeper into how to spot a sociopath. 

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What Are Personalty Disorders

What are Personality Disorders?

An individual’s personality is a set of characteristics that defines how they perceive the world around them. It is made up of features that cause them to think, feel, and act in a particular way. Our style of behavior, how we react, our worldview, thoughts, feelings, and the way we interact in relationships are all part of what makes up our personality. Having a healthy personality enables a person to function in daily life. Everyone experiences stress at some time in life, but a healthy personality helps us to face the challenges and move on. Genetic make-up, biological factors, and environmental surroundings all help to shape personality. Personality makes each of us different…makes each of us an individual. 

A personality disorder is officially described as “A deeply ingrained, inflexible pattern of relating, perceiving, and thinking that is serious enough to cause distress or impaired functioning.” In order to receive a diagnosis of a personality disorder, an individual must meet certain criteria, which are discussed below.

For someone with a personality disorder, the features of everyday life that most of us take for granted can become a challenge. When an individual has a personality disorder, it becomes harder for them to respond to the changes and demands of life, and to form and maintain relationships with others. These experiences can lead to distress and social isolation, and can increase the risk of depression and other mental health issues.

There are ten types of personality disorders, and The Psychiatric DSM-5 (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, 5th edition) groups these ten personality disorders into three broad clusters, referred to as A, B, and C.

Cluster A personality disorders involve behavior that seems unusual and eccentric to others.

They include:
Paranoid personality disorder
Schizoid personality disorder
Schizotypal personality disorder

Cluster B personality disorders feature behavior that is emotional, dramatic, or erratic. 

Examples include:
Antisocial personality disorder
Borderline personality disorder
Histrionic personality disorder
Narcissistic personality disorder

Cluster C personality disorders feature behaviors that are motivated by anxiety and fear. 

Examples include:
Avoidant personality disorder
Dependent personality disorder
Obsessive-Compulsive personality disorders

Ten Types of Personality Disorders

1. Paranoid Personality Disorder
Affects approximately 2% – 4% of the general population. A person with paranoid personality disorder finds it hard to trust others. They might think that people are lying to them or manipulating them, even when there is no evidence of this happening. The inability to trust others can make it hard for people with paranoid PD to maintain relationships with those around them.

People with this may exhibit 
– Mistrust and suspicion
– Hypervigilance
– Fear
– Anxiety about others taking advantage of them
– Anger over perceived abuse
– Concern about hidden meanings or motives

2. Schizoid Personality Disorder
Affects fewer than 1% of the population. A person with schizoid personality disorder may feel more comfortable with a pet than with another person, and in fact may form attachments with objects or animals rather than people, because they feel very uncomfortable when they are required to relate to others. Others may see the person as aloof, detached, cold, or as a “loner.” Note that schizoid personality disorder shares some features with schizophrenia, but they are not the same, as psychosis and hallucinations that are required for the diagnosis of schizophrenia are not part of schizoid personality disorder. However, individuals with schizoid personality disorder may have relatives of with schizophrenia or schizotypal personality disorder.

The person will tend to:
– Avoid close social contact with others
– Have difficulty forming personal relationships
– Seek employment that involves limited personal or social interaction
– React to situations in ways that others consider inappropriate
– Appear withdrawn and isolated

3. Schizotypal Personality Disorder
People with this disorder may have few close relationships outside their own family, because they have difficulty understanding how relationships develop, and how their behavior affects others. They may also find it hard to understand or trust others. A person with this condition has a higher risk of developing schizophrenia in the future.

For diagnosis, the person must exhibit or experience five or more of the following behaviors:
– Ideas of reference; example, when a minor event happens, they believe it has special significance for them.
– Odd beliefs or magical thinking that influences their behavior; such as superstitious thinking, beliefs in telepathy, or bizarre fantasies or preoccupations
– Unusual perceptual experiences, including bodily illusions and odd thinking and speech; example, metaphorical thinking, minute detail, and overelaboration.
– Suspiciousness or paranoia
– Inappropriate or bizarre facial expressions
– Behaviors that seem odd, eccentric, or peculiar
– Lack of close friends or confidants, other than first-degree relatives
– Extreme social anxiety

4. Antisocial Personality Disorder
A person with antisocial personality disorder (ASPD) acts without regard to right or wrong, or without thinking about the consequences of their actions on others. It is more likely to affect men than women. Approximately 1% – 3% of the general population have ASPD, but is found in approximately 40% – 70% of the incarcerated (jailed) population. When found in children under 15, commonly referred to as conduct disorder, which significantly increases the risk of having ASPD later in life. Researchers studied specific genetic features in 543 participants with ASPD. They found similar genetic features, as well as low levels of grey matter in the frontal cortex area of the brain. They determined that genetic, biological, and environmental factors are all likely to play a role.

This can result in:
– Irresponsible/ delinquent behavior
– Novelty-seeking behavior
– Violent behavior
– High risk for criminal activity

5. Borderline Personality Disorder
A person with borderline personality disorder will have trouble controlling their emotions.
They may experience:
– Mood swings
– Shifts in behavior and self-image
– Impulsive behavior
– Periods of intense anxiety, anger, depression, and boredom
These intense feelings can last for only a few hours or for much longer periods, even up to weeks. They can lead to relationship difficulties and other challenges in daily life, resulting in:

– Rapid changes in how the person relates to others, for example: swift  shifts from closeness to anger
– Risky behaviors, ie dangerous driving and spending sprees
– Self-harming behavior
– Poor anger management
– Sense of emptiness
– Difficulty trusting others
– Recurrent suicidal behaviors, gestures, threats, or self-mutilation, such as cutting
– Feelings of apathy, detachment, or dissociation

6. Histrionic Personality Disorder
A person with histrionic personality disorder feels a need for others to notice them and reassure them that they are significant. This can affect the way the person thinks and acts. It is considered to be one of the most ambiguous (ie non-specific) diagnostic categories in mental health. The person may feel a strong need to be loved, and they may also feel as if they are not strong enough to cope with everyday life alone. The person may function well in social and other environments, but they may also experience high levels of stress, and this can lead to them having depression and anxiety. The features of histrionic personality disorder can overlap with, and be similar to, those of narcissistic personality disorder.

It may lead to behavior that appears:
– Self-centered
– Provocative and flirtatious
-Inappropriate
– Excessively emotional or dramatic
– Emotionally shallow
– Insincere, as likes and dislikes shift to suit the people around them at the given moment
– Risky, as the person constantly seeks novelty and excitement

7. Narcissistic Personality Disorder
This disorder features a sense of self-importance and power, but it can also involve feelings of low self-esteem and weakness. These features can make it hard for them to maintain healthy relationships and function in daily life.

A person with this condition may show the following personality traits:
– An inflated sense of their own importance, attractiveness, success, and power
– Craving for admiration and attention
– Lacking regard for others’ feelings
– Overstatement of their talents or achievements
– Expectation of deserving the best of everything
– Experiencing hurt and rejection easily
– Expecting others to go along with all of their plans and ideas
– Experiencing jealousy
– Believing they should have special treatment
– Believing they should only spend time with other people who are as special as they are
– Appearing arrogant or pretentious
– Being prone to impulsive behavior

People with narcissistic PD may also have a higher risk of:
– Mood, substance, and anxiety disorders
– Low self-esteem and fear of not being good enough
– Feelings of shame, helplessness, anger at themselves
– Impulsive behavior
– Using lethal means to attempt suicide

8. Avoidant Personality Disorder This personality disorder can make it hard to form friendships. A person with it avoids social situations and close interpersonal relationships, mainly due to a fear of rejection and the feeling that they are not good enough. There may also be a higher risk of substance abuse, eating disorders, or depression, and the person may think about or attempt suicide. A person with avoidant personality disorder may want to develop close relationships with others, but they lack the confidence and ability to form relationships. They generally appear extremely shy and socially inhibited.

They often exhibit:
– Feelings of inadequacy
– Low self-esteem
– Distrustfulness of others

9. Dependent Personality Disorder
People with dependent PD often lack confidence in themselves and their abilities. It is difficult for them to undertake projects independently or to make decisions without help, and they may find it hard to take personal responsibility. They are especially vulnerable to ill-treatment from others, including emotional, verbal, physical, domestic abuse. Any mistreatment can lead to further complications, such as depression and anxiety.

A person with this condition may have the following characteristics:
– Having an excessive need to be taken care of by others
– Being overly-dependent on others
– Having a deep fear of separation and abandonment
– Investing a lot of energy and resources in trying to please others
– Going to great lengths to avoid disagreement and conflict
– Being vulnerable to manipulation by others.

– A willingness to tolerate mistreatment to keep a relationship
– A preference to not be alone 

Others may see their behavior as:
– Submissive
– Clingy
– Nonassertive
– Passive
– Docile


10. Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder

A person with OCPD can find it difficult to accept when something is not perfect. Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD) is not the same as obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). OCD relates to everyday tasks, while OCPD focuses specifically on following procedures. In addition, OCD can interfere with the way a person functions in everyday life, whereas OCPD can enhance a person’s professional performance, while also potentially interfering with their personal life outside of work. Some people may experience both OCD and OCPD, and research has shown that there appears to be a link between them. An excessive concern with perfectionism and hard work dominate the life of a person with OCDP. The individual may prioritize these ideals of perfectionism and hard work to the detriment of close personal relationships. In fact, others may see the individual as sanctimonious, stubborn, uncooperative, and obstinate.

A person with OCPD may:
– Appear inflexible
– Feel an overwhelming need to be in control
– Find that concerns about rules and efficiency make it hard to relax
– Find it hard to complete a task for fear that it is not perfect
– Be uncomfortable when things are messy
– Have difficulty delegating tasks to others
– Be extremely frugal, even when it is not necessary
– Hoard items

Personality Disorders: Treatment and Outlook

People with personality disorders often don’t feel there is anything wrong with their behavior, but they may seek help because they are experiencing social isolation and fear. Regardless, depression, anxiety, and other mental health issues can result from living with a personality disorder. For this reason, it is important for them to seek help early. Personality disorders often share features, and it can be hard to distinguish between them, but there are sufficient criteria for an appropriate diagnosis. Following that diagnosis, treatment can help people with the various types of personality disorders. The physician may prescribe medication, and will often recommend therapy or counseling. Individual, group, and family counseling can help. One type of counseling is cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). CBT helps a person to see their behavior in a new way and to learn alternative ways of reacting to situations. In time, this can make it easier for the person to function in everyday life and to maintain healthy relationships with others. So overall, the outlook is positive if the person with the personality disorder is willing to dedicate themselves to diligent work. 
PsyCom has several online tests you can take for yourself or for someone else in your life, and then submit for results. Just for funsies, below are links to some tests related to this week’s topic, personality disorders.  

Sociopathy Test

Do you have antisocial personality disorder, commonly referred to as sociopathy? Use this quiz to determine whether you or someone you know may be a sociopath.

https://www.psycom.net/antisocial-personality-disorder-sociopath-test/

Narcissist Test

Do you have narcissistic personality disorder? Use this quiz to determine whether you or someone you know may be a narcissist or have a more severe case of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).

https://www.psycom.net/narcissistic-personality-disorder-test

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How To Determine If Someone Is Suicidal

A Coronavirus PSA

Before we get to this next blog on suicide, I must say something related to Coronavirus transmission, because I’m tired of yelling it at my television when I see people doing it or talking about it, how “safe” it is. What is it? It’s “elbow love,” bumping elbows with someone to say hello, goodbye, good job, whassup, whatever. Think about this, people: during this viral outbreak, what have we been asking people to do when they sneeze or cough? Ideally, to do so in a tissue, but that’s not realistic, it rarely happens, so we ask them to sneeze or cough into their bent arm, at the elbow. Get the picture? The droplets they expell during that sneeze or cough are deposited everywhere surrounding that area, including the part you bump, so if your “bumpee” has Coronavirus, even if they have no symptoms, you, the “bumper” get those bijillions of virions on your elbow, and you can take them home with you. Then maybe your spouse or partner welcomes you home by putting their hands on your arms to give you a kiss… and now half a bijillion virions may be on one of their hands, just waiting to be deposited everywhere. Bottom line: for as long as this virus is around, use your words, not your body, to say whassup. So pass this knowledge on…not the virus. 

Suicide Assessment

Suicide is always a very difficult topic for every family, and in thirty years as a psychiatrist, it’s never gotten much easier to broach this subject. What motivated me to write this blog is a recent conversation I had with the father of one of my young patients, a fourteen-year-old named Collin, who in fact had just made what I believed was a half-hearted suicide attempt; the proverbial ‘cry for help.’ Understand that half-hearted does not mean it’s totally safe to blow it off, but we’ll get to an explanation about that later. His father, Lawrence, who prefers to be called Law, was a single parent, a widower after metastatic melanoma devastated the family of three about eighteen months before. Shortly after the mother, Sharon, passed away, Law brought Collin to my office. It was clear from the first appointment that Collin was depressed, and had been for some time. Psychotherapy was difficult with him, and it took about five appointments to establish more than a tenuous relationship and for him to begin to open up to me. I had tried him on a couple of medications, but they never seemed to do the job. I strongly suspected that it was due to a compliance issue. Actually, I’m certain that it was. He just didn’t take them regularly or as directed. That always mystifies me, patients who are miserable, anxious and depressed, but they take their meds haphazardly, at best; meds that could turn their worlds around…not because they’re inconvenient, and not because of side effects, just because. So, the tenuous connection made for less than optimal psychotherapy sessions, and that, combined with the absence of appropriate meds, put Collin on a path that led here, my office, 22 hours after his attempt. I was a little shocked by his attempt, but very shocked at how effectively, how deeply, he was able to hide the monumental amount of pain that he had obviously been feeling. His father Law looked exhausted, shellshocked, and was having such difficulty talking about it for a number of reasons, but he told me that one of the main reasons was shame. He was ashamed that Collin was so ill, and even ashamed that he was ashamed of it. He was ashamed that he could do nothing to help him, and ashamed that he had possibly caused or contributed to his son’s illness. I told him repeatedly and in several different ways that I understood, that his feelings weren’t unusual among parents of children like Collin, that he absolutely was helping him, and that while mental illness does have a familial component, he was not responsible in any way for his sons illness or attempt. Unfortunately, I don’t think he really heard a word I said. In my experience, suicidal ideation, thoughts of suicide, suicide attempts, and the actual act of suicide affects everyone it touches in a way that no other psychiatric illness does. But in this situation, I think Law was thinking about what his life would be like if Collin tried again and succeeded. It would be very sad, alone, and lonely.

Facts and Figures

Suicide is the 10^th leading cause of death in the United States, claiming 47,173 lives in 2019. Montana and Alaska have the highest suicide rates, which is interesting because both of those states have very high gun ownership rates. Believe it or not, New Jersey is the lowest. I have no clue why that would be the case. There were 1.4 million suicide attempts last year in the US. Men are 3.54 times more likely than women to commit suicide.  Of all the suicides in the United States last year, 69.67% were white men; they don’t seem to be doing so well. The most common way to commit suicide is by firearm, at about 50%; suffocation is 27.7%, poisoning is 13.9%, and other would be the rest, things like jumping from a tall building or bridge, laying on train tracks or jumping in front of a subway car or a bus. Among US citizens, depression affects 20 to 25% of the population, so at any given point, 20% of the population is a bit more prone to suicide, as obvi people must first be depressed (chronically or acutely) before attempting suicide. There are 24 suicide attempts for every 1 completed suicide. The most disturbing statistic is that suicide rates are up 30% in the past 16 years, with a marked increase in adolescent suicides, and suicide is now the second leading cause of death in people ages 10 to 24.

You would think the US would have the highest suicide rates in the world, but in fact, Russia, China, and Japan are all higher. 

Suicide Risk Factors

What are some factors that may put someone at higher risk of suicide?

–  Family history of completed suicide in first-degree relatives

–  Adverse childhood experiences, ie parental loss, emotional/ physical/ sexual abuse

–  Negative life situations, ie loss of a business, financial issues, job loss

–  Psychosocial stressors, ie death of loved one, separation, divorce, or breakup of relationship, isolation

–  Acute and chronic health issues, illness and/ or incapacity, ie stroke, paralysis, mental illness, diagnoses of conditions like HIV or cancer, chronic pain syndromes

But, understand there’s no rule that someone must have one or more of these factors in order to be suicidal.

Mental Illness and Suicidality

In order to make a thorough suicide risk assessment, mental illness must be considered. There seem to be 6 mental health diagnoses that people who successfully complete suicide have in common: 

–  Depression

–  Bipolar disorder

–  Mania

–  Schizoaffective disorder 

–  Schizophrenia

–  Post-traumatic stress disorder

–  Substance abuse 

Suicidal Ideation

Suicidal ideation refers to the thoughts that a person may have about suicide, or committing suicide. Suicidal ideation must be assessed when it is expressed, as it plays an important role in developing a complete suicide risk assessment. Assessing suicidal ideation includes:

– Determining the extent of the person’s preoccupation with thoughts of suicide, ie continuous? Intermittent? If so, how often?

– Specific plans; if they exist or not; if yes, how detailed or thought out?

– Person’s reason(s) or motivation(s) to attempt suicide

Assessment of Suicide Risk
Assessing suicide risk includes the full examination/ assessment of:

–  The degree of planning 

–  The potential or perceived lethality of the specific suicide method being considered, ie gun versus overdose versus hanging

–  Whether the person has access to the means to carry out the suicide plan, ie a gun, the pills, rope

–  Access to the place to commit

–  Note: presence, timing, content

–  Person’s reason(s) to commit suicide; motivated only by wish to die; highly varied; ie overwhelming emotions, deep philosophical belief

–  Person’s motivation(s) to commit suicide; not motivated only by wish to die; motivated to end suffering, ie from physical pain, terminal illness

–  Person’s motivation(s) to live, not commit suicide

What is a Suicide Plan?

A suicide plan may be written or kept in someone’s head; it generally includes the following elements: 

–  Timing of the suicide event

–  Access to the method and setting of suicide event

–  Actions taken toward carrying out the plan, ie obtaining gun, poison, rope; seeking/ choosing/ inspecting a setting; rehearsing the plan 

The more detailed and specific the suicide plan, the greater the level of risk. The presence of a suicide note suggests more premeditation and typically greater suicidal intent, so an assessment would definitely include an exploration of the timing and content of any suicide note, as well as a thorough discussion of its meaning with its author.

I spent years teaching suicide assessment to other physicians, medical students, nurses, therapists, you name it. It all seems super complicated when you look at all the above factors written out, but as I always taught, it becomes clearer when you put it into practice. What are we doing when we embark on a suicide assessment? We’re determining suicidality, the likelihood that someone will committ suicide. You’re deciding how dangerous someone is to themselves using the factors discussed above. You’re either looking at how lethal they could be, how lethal they are at this time, or how lethal they wereduring a previous episode of suicidal ideation or previous suicide attempt. 

When we put this all into practice, we look at statements and actions to determine how dangerous a person is. Did someone say, ‘if so and so does this, I’ll kill myself’ or, did someone act but just scratched their wrist? Those would be low level lethality, and they would not be very dangerous. Did someone buy a gun, load the ammunition, learn how to shoot it, go to the place where they planned to kill themselves at the time they planned, and then practice putting the gun to their head…essesntially a dry run? That would be the most lethal; that person would be the most dangerous. Those are the two poles of lethality and danger, but there are variant degrees and many shades of gray, so you really have to discuss it very thoroughly with each individual. 

Let’s say a 15-year-old is in the office after taking a big handful of pills in a suicide attempt. I ask him if he realized that taking those pills could have actually killed him, and he says no. He’s not that lethal, not that dangerous, because even though his means (pill overdose) was lethal, he didn’t know it was, so lacking that knowledge mitigates the risk, making him less dangerous. Example: acetominophen is actually extremely lethal. People who truly overdose on it don’t die immediately, but it shuts down the liver, killing them two days later. A person that takes a bunch of it thinking it’s a harmless over the counter drug is not that dangerous, because even though their method was lethal, they didn’t know it. In a similar manner, I’ve had people mix benzos with alcohol, which is another very lethal method. It’s a very successful way to kill yourself, but a lot of people don’t realize it, so it’s not that lethal to them. In the reverse case, people who know about combining alcohol and benzodiazepines, who know how dangerous it is, are dangerous, highly lethal to themselves. 

People who play with guns, like Russian Roulette-type stuff; or people who intentionally try asphyxiating or suffocating themselves, as for sexual pleasure; or people who tie a rope to a rafter and then test their weight…these people are very dangerous, very lethal, very scary to psychiatrists.   

Where someone attempts suicide is also very telling, very instructive in determining their lethality, how suicidal, how dangerous they are. If they do it in a place where there is no chance of being found, of being interrupted, they are very suicidal, very dangerous. Contrast that to doing it in a place where there are people walking by, or in a house where someone is, or could be coming home, then they are not as suicidal, not as dangerous. As an exaple, let’s say someone leaves their car running in a garage when they know that no one will be around for 2 days. That is very dangerous, they are very suicidal. If someone takes an opiate overdose at night when everyone’s in bed so they won’t find them for many hours, they are dangerous. If someone takes the overdose during the day, when people are awake at home, they are less dangerous. 

A change in somone’s behaviors and/ or outlook can also help determine lethality. When people start giving away their possessions, that is a sign that they are very lethal, very dangerous. Another factor that can be informative is if an unnatural calm comes over them, and they say that they have no more problems, and everything is great. That is an indicator of serious lethality, major danger. These people have a sense of ease because they know that they’ll be dead very soon, and they don’t have to worry about things anymore. These are ominous signs.

Giving information about an attempt also informs a person’s level of lethality. If someone makes a statement of intent to commit suicide, they are not very dangerous. For example, a spouse saying ‘if you leave me, I’ll kill myself’ or ‘you broke my heart, I can’t live without you, I’m going to kill myself’ those statements alone do not indicate a very dangerous person. Not telling anyone and hiding when they plan to attempt is much more dangerous. There are many cases when people don’t come out and tell, but they aren’t being very secretive, intentionally or not, possibly even subconsciously. They leave clues, almost giving people a road map. This is very common, and these people are typically discovered. The discovery can either totally abort the act before it’s attempted, or can abort after the attempt, but in enough time to get the person help. This is why for every 1 “successfully” completed suicide, there are 24 failed suicide attempts. Similarly, someone who says ‘if this thing (interview, event) goes my way, I’ll be good, but if it doesn’t, I swear I’ll kill myself’ is not that dangerous, not very suicidal, because they’re bargaining, which means they’re still living in the real world. But, someone who does not want to negotiate, doesn’t care to affect things one way or another, may not be living in the real world, and they’re dangerous, they may be high risk to enter the world of the dead.  

There are a couple other things to be considered in assessing risk of suicide, determining how dangerous someone might be. If someone is impaired, using drugs and/ or alcohol when they attempt or consider suicide, and if they are not suicidal when they’re clean and sober, they are generally not that suicidal, not that dangerous, they just have a drug or alcohol problem. When they get clean and sober for good, the risk is essentially zero, barring anything else. In a similar way, if someone is suffering from a mental illness when they attempt or consider suicide, but when you correct that mental illness they are not suicidal, they are not a huge danger. 

So during suicide risk assessment, you can be looking at someone having a nebulous thought and/ or making a statement that a lot of people may have or make, and you know that they’re not very dangerous; or looking all the way to the opposite side, someone who thinks about it, formulates a thorough plan, picks the place and time, aquires all the things needed to commit the act, writes a suicide letter, and practices the complete act soup to nuts, and you know that they are very, very dangerous. And all the shades in between. 

So that’s my primer on suicidal thinking and assessing suicide risk. There are lots of factors to keep in mind, and sometimes it’s a little like reading minds, but you get more proficient as the years go by…it’s easier to tell when someone is misleading or being honest and open. If you enjoy a humorous approach to character studies in all sorts of diagnoses, you would enjoy my book, Tales from the Couch, available on Amazon. I mean, most of you are isolating, sheltering in place anyway, right? Might as well entertain yourself! Check it out. – Dr. Mark Agresti

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Why Are People Going Crazy

Why are people going crazy?

Why do I ask? Well, sadly, because these days, some people like to pick up a weapon or cache of weapons and commit mass murder. The images of the aftermath on CNN have become all too familiar. If you asked the average person on the street to use one word to describe the type of person that commits these mass murders, what word would the majority use? Crazy. Or a smile thereof, like insane or nuts. So, let’s take a look at what the word ‘crazy’ means. The accepted definition is ‘Mentally deranged, especially in a wild or aggressive way.’ It is not a technical term. As a psychiatrist for more than half of my life, I have never diagnosed a single person as crazy. Crazy is not a term for mental illness. Mental illnesses are things like psychosis, bipolar, depression, obsessive compulsive disorders, panic disorders, anxiety disorders and personality disorders, to name a few. These are the illnesses I know and deal with on the daily; they do not generally create an individual who wants to go out and fire upon a random group of people with no intent but to maim and kill. Because doing that, randomly wiping people from the face of the earth, is not in and of itself mental illness. No. Killing a group of people is crazy. So, what is it about our society that creates members that go crazy? 

First, let’s specify who I mean when I say “members of our society.” I have researched this topic, looked at every mass shooting/ killing in the United States, and I’ve come up with some commonalities here. Basically, the shooters are male, they are white, and they are young, under 35 years of age. Oh, and they are absolutely, unequivocally, totally crazy/ insane/ nuts/ cuckoo/ Looney Tunes/ whacko; you get the idea. What else? They spend a lot of time on the internet, typically a minimum of 4 hours a day. Some are on the internet constantly, either playing video games, watching videos or surfing chat rooms, literally every waking moment. A mind boggling 28% of the under 35 crowd spend every waking moment on the internet, and another 45% are on and off it maybe 4 to 5 hours a day.  What does that mean? Keep in mind, being on the internet is not like watching TV or watching Netflix…with TV and movies, there are producers and directors that, to some extent, have decided what content will be shown in the program or movie. On the internet, content cannot be controlled in the same way. A fairly simple search can take you to very specific, very isolated sites that talk about anger, white resentment, white nationalism, and hate groups of every kind. On these sites, you find others of like mind, who agree with you on these distorted views, and as a result, there is a phenomenon of mutual brainwashing. Imagine for a minimum of 16 hours a day, being constantly bombarded by hate, negative thoughts, resentment and feelings of oppression. You fall into groups that encourage the need to lash out, groups where you seek out a singular message and you get back a singular message. The more you seek it out, the more it comes to you, the more you read about it, the more you think about it. The more you talk to people about it, the more people who want to talk to you about it. It just snowballs as it brainwashes, and people become obsessional about hate and killing, perverse topics of all sorts. These negative messages are constantly being broadcast on the internet, and the more someone does, the more they want to do. So, excessive time on the internet, seeking out hate and perversity, that’s the first factor associated with these young white men who go crazy and shoot people. 

Another factor is that these people are constantly getting messages from the media: television, radio, blogs, podcasts, talk shows, that white men are responsible for many of society’s problems. They are responsible for all sorts of racism, oppression, slavery, income inequality, starvation in the third world, climate change… young white men are responsible for everything that is wrong in our society. That is the current message broadcast from the media; the cause, if you will. The effect? Well, the creation of some really pissed off, young white guys that feel like you keep putting them down, keep stepping on them, keep telling them that they’re bad. You rarely hear a good message about white men. It is generally stereotypically negative, negative, negative. If you were to do that in any other group, it would be called racism; but if it’s focused on the white privileged, it passes. Their feelings of oppression have abnormal repercussions, and I think that’s why we get white men lashing out in crazy bizarre ways. So these repercussions from negative messages and perceptions are the second factor associated with these young white men who go crazy and shoot people.

A third factor contributing to the mass shooting phenomenon is the availability of guns, drugs and alcohol. So these guys have the means to kill in all manner of ways, and they are impaired by drugs and alcohol. Gun ownership is up. And have you seen some of the guns that people are legally allowed to own? AK’s, 50 cals, grenade launchers…the type of firepower legally possessable is mind blowing. These weapons are made to kill people, plain and simple. And of course, drug use is also up. Last I checked, there are 30 million Americans abusing drugs, and most are not in the work force. The availability of guns and prolific drug use make up the third factor associated with why these young white men go crazy and shoot people.

Another factor is that these people spend an inordinate amount of time alone. Most do not have jobs and are loners for various reasons, so there are no checks and balances for them, they are not expected to be anywhere. Also, there is no one to positively influence them, to tell them do this, do not do that, that is not appropriate, etc. They are alone.  They are alone with nothing but negative thoughts, on the internet all the time, satisfying perverse needs, being brainwashed, and getting negative messages about white men. Combine that with the availability of drugs and alcohol and weapons, and you have a fire just waiting for a match. These make up the fourth factor associated with why these young white men go crazy and shoot people. 

While those are four factors that these young white men are doing that contribute to the mass shooting phenomenon, there are some things that they are not doing that also contributes to it. They are not making friends, entering relationships or having sex, which would probably tone things down. Also, they are not involved in religious organizations, which would teach ideas of forgiveness, the sanctity of life, to be good to your fellow man, and how to help others. Religion would offer a positive group consciousness. There is not that religious component to our lives like there used to be, or to the extent it used to be. The lack of the positive motivator that religion brings plays a role in the mass shooting phenomenon. Another thing they are not doing is participating in team sports. Why do parents put kids in pee wee football, soccer, or softball? Team sports are where we teach moralities, sportsmanship, working as a team, caring for others, and helping others. As we grow up, team sports reinforce these ideals. Because these guys don’t participate in these things, they are not learning group behavior, team building behavior. What’s more, they are not feeling part of a community.  What they have is the internet and its vague, nebulous, untethered existence. They may play video games with people all over the globe, but there is no sense of community and no checks and balances that community brings. No care of presence or absence. On a more national level, there is less sense of true patriotism. We are not one people. To these young white men, patriotism is twisted at best, and it feels to them like they are not part of America anymore. They are marginalized and spout anti-patriotism. Even at the school level, they are ‘apart from’, they have no school pride, no sense of belonging to a group. Their lives are just a random series of interactions with electronic entities that they do not even know. They don’t know who or what these people really are that they may find on the internet, that they may blindly follow. They have no relationships to positive groups or organizations that help stabilize people and steer them to do appropriate things. These things are not happening. This is what I call the collective consciousness of our society. It has broken down, fragmented, partially by us. So now the common good or the common morality has alluded us. It has been diluted, been made to be a smaller component in our lives. Instead we are fed a diet of negativity. So some people are not being socialized by positive groups. Instead they go to the internet, video and social media. There they find material that appeals to their deepest, darkest negative thoughts; places where those thoughts are promoted and nurtured. I think that these are the reasons why people go crazy, the factors that contribute to the making of mass murderers. I get more into true mental illness in my book, Tales from the Couch, by Dr. Mark Agresti, available on Amazon.com. Please check it out.

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Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a personality disorder described as a prolonged disturbance of personality function in a person (generally over the age of eighteen years, although it is also found in adolescents), characterized by depth and variability of moods. The disorder typically involves unusual levels of instability in mood; black and white thinking, or splitting; the disorder often manifests itself inidealization and devaluation episodes, as well as chaotic and unstable interpersonal relationships, self-image, identity, and behavior; as well as a disturbance in the individual’s sense of self. In extreme cases, this disturbance in the sense of self can lead to periods of dissociation.

BPD splitting includes a switch between idealizing and demonizing others. This, combined with mood disturbances, can undermine relationships with family, friends, and co-workers. BPD disturbances also may include self-harm. Without treatment, symptoms may worsen, leading (in extreme cases) to suicide attempts.

There is an ongoing debate among clinicians and patients worldwide about terminology and the use of the word borderline, and some have suggested that this disorder should be renamed. The ICD-10 manual has an alternative definition and terminology to this disorder, calledEmotionally unstable personality disorder. There is related concern that the diagnosis of BPD stigmatizes people and supports pejorative and discriminatory practices.

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